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writes: I need some advice badly.So my boyfriend and I got into an argument.It was really bad, we were yelling and stuff, it was bad.Then he hit(punched) me in the face.I slapped his face and then he shoved me into the wall.Then he left and went somewhere.He came back after a few hours and said that he was sorry and stuff. I said sorry as well.I don't know if I should stay with him or not. We've been together for over 2 years and this is the first time he's hit me.So I don't know what I should do.Oh and I'm also pregnant with his baby. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): Im two months pregnant and as of a weeks time i shall be having an a abortion... My boyfriend hits me all the time, he has now gone and unfortunately i never want to see him again so abortion is my only option.
Once they hit you once they will do it again trust me, it also gets worse. And to make matters worse you are pregnant and this is the time a women need support, love and great understanding not pure and utter selfishness.
Goodluck
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reader, ninja26  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 ok. 1 you need to make it 100% clear to him that if he does it again he will be out of your life in a heart beat! If this is going to become a problem, you dont wnat your new child involved in that! You need to talk to him about it, ask why he see did it. And see if he's changing from the guy you knew, or something jsut snapped?! just make sure you do what is best for YOU and ur child on the way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): You may have known him for two years and this is the first time he's been violent to you. But if he's not afraid to go down that road, and while you're pregnant no less, allowing him to get away with it just one time could be like opening pandora's box.
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reader, Godchild +, writes (3 January 2011):
Please don't bring a child into that mess. Leave him, and Im glad you hit him back. Theses guys have no respect for women these days. The baby doesn't need to be around domestic violence.Did you call the police, file a complaint anything. Save yourself it only gets worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): First off, so sorry you are going through this, and pregnant too. But for me, any violence is a 'deal-breaker' once you tolerate it, once you allow it to go by with an apology, the guy knows he has got away with it, and knows he can do it again. Of course he may not, but why would you take that chance when you're pregnant. You are bringing an innocent child into the world, and there doesn't seem much of a commitment to do that.
You are way too young to become a mother, and he is probably way to young to want or be able to give you and the baby what is needed in life. And if he's hitting a pregnant woman he is already not fit to be a father. Sorry, I realize it's not what you want to hear, but I would advise you not to move in with this man, and if you continue to see him, he has to agree to get some anger management counselling.
Not sure what professional support groups are available in Barbados for females, but if there is any, please seek some advice. Violence should never be accepted, not even a slap!
Oh, and when you have this baby please ensure he or she is safe from any domestic violence. Please, please seek some help!
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reader, almc  +, writes (3 January 2011):
You need to leave him, you don't need that! You can do better for you and your unborn baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Does he know about the baby?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Hi hunn! I also went through this same exact situation. I think u should leave and show him that's its not ok to do that to u. U need to let him begg for your forgiveness trust me this works. And why were u sorry u didn't do anything wrong big deal u guys argued who doesn't? That doesn't mean he had a right trust me this is just the beggining don't be ok w/iÞ or be to lazy to leave even if u don't mean just to let hom know its not ok. So when u choose to go back to him he knows its not ok. This is how abuse starts trust me he's gonna have a million of sorrys. Please just try taking my advise and bring it up if u can tell him that u can't believe he did that to u. Trust me if u don't do this abuse is gonna start then your gonna fall out of love w/him anyways so no matter what you'll end up miserable if u don't teach him a lesson. This is the best for everybody even him. Now I'm married to my guy w/2 beautiful kids and happy. He never layed a hand on me again. He still has a temper don't get me wrong but never lays a hand on me. Good luck!
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