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writes:Dear All, I have a problem 14 years ago I was in love and thought I had meet the man who would one day make me his wife. We spent 5 years together and had a child, both of us being young and all we made some stupid choose cheating etc.... The relationship ended 9 years ago. He since then has had 2 more kids with 2 other female one of which after 3 years he made her his wife and all. I 2 have had another child been married and now divorced. Well recently he came to were I live to do some work and we ran into each other and we talked and he came by to see his child we have together. Now this man with whom I haven't been with in 9 years asked me to have sex, now mind you he just got married a few months earlier. I guess my question is why would he want to sleep with me even tho it has been a number of years, and he is married? PLEASE HELP confused!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 October 2009):
Because he wants to use you like he's used all those other women. Don't let this guy use you, he isn't worthy of you at all. Tell him to get lost adn focus on hs marriage.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Because he is a scumbag and that's what scumbags do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): well, i guess he feels you two have already cheated once, its worth a second shot.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 This man CANNOT be trusted.
Avoid him like the swine flu! He's no good. There is NEVER any excuse for infidelity, and I would never trust a man who is guilty of that.
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reader, Candleman +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Considering the fact that the guy just got married, and I mean just got married means that what he is after is sex and sex alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): Hi there. You ask why he's doing this. Well, it's my opinion that usually married men, who pursue other women other than their wives are merely after sexual conquests, hun. Sometimes when a marriage or relationship gets complacent, some married people are out to prove they are still attractive and there is no better way to do that than to win the adoration of another female. So let's rationalize here. The guy wants sex and just sex with you. He's told you that. He's basically proposing toyou and he, to be unfaithful and insincere to his wife and he wants you to be involved in this drama. How will you ever trust such a man? What guarantee is there that he will not ditch you, someday, when he gets somebody different and more attractive, in the future? What if, in spite of your precautions and care, people come to know about the affair? You've been in love with him before..would you be able to guard your heart? If not, what kind of impact will a sexual affair have on your life? If this sexual affair begins and his wife finds out, what will be the fallout, the painful reaction of his wife and children? What if the precautions that you take fail and you end up with an unwanted pregnancy? What about the scars on your conscience? Are you sure that this is what you want in your life? What if in the middle of this relationship you come across another man who would make you an excellent, good life-partner? How do you explain all this to them? Search your conscience and find out whether you really want to end up breaking up a marriage, a home, and ensuring that his child/ren will be victims of a broken marriage and family. Is it worth the trouble and the heartache, hun? Just give all this quiet burial, ensure your child sees him and keep it all in perspective. If you can, please learn to completely detach your feelings from this man Start your life anew. Good luck, dear and be smart...make brave choices.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): Because he is a cheating husband?? Your happiliy married (supoosidedly), try not to get invovled with anything..
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (3 October 2009):
 This man sounds like a scoundrel. There is no reason to be confused. He is just a rotten scoundrel. I know it is difficult for you to see him in that light because you were together five years and had a child together, but from everything you have told us, I feel that you really need to avoid this man at all costs, unless you want to have your heart broken, and your mind messed with, all over again. He sounds disgusting.
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