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writes:Hi All, Just a quick question. My ex ended the relationship some time back - but he still gets jealous and acts possesive with me. eg: wants to know why I did'nt call straight back, still texts and calls every couple of weks, still acts possesive It is confusing. Why would an ex do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHI all, thanks for your answwers. Yes, I think he is very unhappy in his life right now, and that's part of it.He has serious financial issues, and family problems. I miss him alot when I don;t hear from him, but it seems that everytime I am starting to get over him, he apears again, and I do not have the strength to not take his calls after a couple of weeks. He has never come back for the relationship so to speak, although he did say last week about us seeing each other when we can ( as we are both busy). I find it very unsettling, as the truth be known, I am still in love with him, and feel that if he did not want to speak or see me at all, he would not bother to contact me at all, neither would he act possesive, or jealous. It seems he does not want me to move on. Only I can do that- given the space and time. I am going to try hard to stop taking his calls and answewring his tetxs.?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 It sounds like he doesn't want you to have a happy life because he isn't having one now. I would tell him that it is none of his business and if he continues i wouldn't return any of his calls. Even if you two were together he doesn't have the right to track your every move.
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reader, TEM  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 Since he is your ex, you owe him no explanation. He has no right to be possessive, and you should tell him so. Why does he do it? Because you let him. It is the cake-and-eat-it-too syndrome. He is no longer with you but he still wants to be able to control you.
Are you hoping that, by keeping him in your life in this respect, he might come back to you? Does he think he can string you along in case things don't work out with other women? Is that what you want? If not, tell him to mind his own business.
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reader, BeccaLeigh +, writes (7 February 2011):
If an ex is trying to contact you that often, the he probabl still has feelings for you. Perhaps try talking to him about it?
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