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writes:why do some women have a problem when they find out their man enjoys a little porn?i don't get it. we all know men need something visual to get them excited, so what is the difference between a woman reading an erotic novel or having a fantasy in her head to a man watching porn? as long as it is leagal what is the problem? i think some women need to stop worrying about men and porn.
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reader, hosierylover  +, writes (18 January 2019):
they think all guys will do bad things to
women or girls by watching porn
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): If I could find a woman to have a long term sexual friendship without the future hopes of marriage and chldren attached, then I would be spending time with her and not watching porn.
However since most of the women who have recently been attracted to me are looking for a husband and some have actually said that I was husband material I prefer porn, my hand and good lube.
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reader, nichiren +, writes (26 February 2009):
 My suggestion
Find a woman who enjoys porn or is okay with you enjoying it.
However you must also be open minded if she enjoys porn as well.
We come in all preferences. Nothing wrong with disliking porn. just a simple choice of a different individual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): why SHOULD women like it....its obviously unfair that women who give their lives and bodies to men (ir have babies and change their bodies forever through scarring) should feel happy about their husband jacking off to someone who has clearly never been pregnant...you wouldnt like it so, WAKE UP....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): What a mysoginistic thread. Some women don't like it, period, just like some women do. But treating women like they are controlling bitches, nagging, insecure types with nothing else to offer is quite more demeaning than porn. Makes you wonder why these men enter relationships if they are going to talk like this about women: they're insecure, they think men don't have brains, blah, blah, blah, like it was the worst sin to be insecure. So what! I bet all you guys get insecure and competitive or jealous in other aspects of life, like I don't know, if your best friend gets promoted, buys a killer car and gets a smoking hot girlfriend. But being insecure in that scenario wouldn't be so horrible like a woman being insecure about her body right? Or if this one woman tells you your penis is small, then you get all insecure and sensitive because it's a direct attack at your virility, and everyone in the net is supportive... but being insecure about having small breasts is ridiculous, because get over it, other women have bigger breasts and are hotter and so what? stop being insecure! Geez...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): Good call. You will make a good woman for life. Thank you.
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reader, Tomas +, writes (19 February 2009):
to female anonymous - weird as it may sound, many guys (myself included) wouldn't feel slightly bothered by it. Maybe that's because guys don't feel insecure enough. Guys are more likely to assume that a woman masturbating to pictures of well hung men does so because those pictures provide fuel to her imagination. The more fuel she pours on, the hotter her sexuality burns, and envy the lucky guy who she shares that sexuality with.Also, maybe because men have traditionally traded on their wealth, and women their looks, men are less inclined to be threatened by the looks of other guys (or to empathize with women's insecurity about their looks/attractiveness). Some guys might be more threatened by their ladies fantasizing about a rich sugar daddy in a romance novel, than a sexy stud in a magazine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): So you men would be okay with your women collecting pictures of sexy hunks and masturbating to videos of men with giant penises and you won't be slightly bit bothered by it??
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): It is mainly an insecurity thing, doesn't happen too much with guys as we're never going to read any of those romance novels and if we did there's nothing to be jealous about, because it's all imagination.
I'm pretty sure there would be plenty of guys feeling insecure, if they knew their girlfriend was regularly getting off on porn containing men with much bigger penises than theirs.
I don't agree with Doug on the tips and tricks thing though, porn is made by men for men (mostly) hence there are no tips and tricks in it on how to pleasure a woman, indeed porn girls will do the things that most guys have the good sense not to ask their girlfriends to do, because most of it is pretty demeaning to women, for example deep throat, facials etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): I think the vast majority of women are insecure. It's the same when a couple split & divorce - their friends suddenly stop their men socialising with the divorced guy in case he leads their men astray! Like, they think the guys don't have their own mind or something.
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reader, Doug Fertado +, writes (18 February 2009):
 I have often wondered that same thing. I personally have no problem with it at all, I like to watch it with my bf. It's mainly a jealousy thing I think. "Why are you watching that bitch when you got me right here, oh your gonna keep her in your mind and then think your crawling in bed with me to have sex, but it's really like your having sex with her!" That must be the main reason they start trippin and saying something about it. I don't know, us as woman are a little bit "out there" when it comes to small, minor details about certain things. I know it doesn't bug me, I enjoy it! Learn new tips and tricks :-)
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reader, natasia +, writes (18 February 2009):
 To my mind the main problem is always jealousy and insecurity.
It is not nice, if you are worried, eg, about your weight, or if your BF tells you you are too fat, and then you see him watching women with perfect tiny bodies having sex. If he sat in a room with them and watched it, you know he'd want to join in. You know he wants to join in even when he's watching it on his laptop. It makes you feel bad. It makes you feel like he prefers those women to you. Which , if given a choice, he very probably would, on a purely sexual level!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And then you think, but what about my mind, my soul, my love for you? And you realise that he couldn't give a stuff about any of that - what matters to him, in those moments of the porn-watching, is the flat stomachs, perfect thighs and expertly-trimmed nether regions of those hussies!!
Well, that's what I imagine some might have a problem with it ... ; )
One always feels 'why do you need that when you've got me?', and there ain't no good answer!
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reader, Tewebag +, writes (18 February 2009):
i asked my girl who doesnt want me watching porn either unless she is there in control of what we look at. it is a security thing. they dont want you looking at someone who you might find more attractive them they are, or they have bigger boobs. some women are just really insucure.
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reader, bee n me +, writes (18 February 2009):
i don`t mind watching porn with my man, it`s fun and stimulating. i guess a woman needs to feel secure in herself in order to feel comfortable watching porn, and the man reassuring her that it not anything to do with their sex life, it's just FUN n SEXXXY!!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Some chicks are just super insecure or feel like they want their relationship to be sexually exclusive not only physically but visually too.
I'm like you, I could care less that my fella checks out porn - I know that he loves me best and would always opt for me instead of his own hand. Some girls don't have that reassurance. Also, I understand that having "personal time" is important for not only him, but me too!! And I love those smutty romance books. Rowr!
It depends on the woman, the man, their insecurities, the security of their relationship and the satisfaction they're getting from their sex lives together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): I don't really know. As far as I'm concerned there's little difference between a man watching some porn and a woman reading a Mills & Boon paperback. I guess the only difference is the man is thinking 'sex' whilst the woman is thinking 'Romance'
'Twas ever thus!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Everyone has different views, some women may feel threatened, as porn can become an obsession. Some women may feel insecure and think that their men are fantasising of porn stars when they are having sex. Other women may feel that the concepts used in porn degrade women. Every woman is different, some women don't mind porn at all and will even watch it with their partners.
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