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*000BraveHeart0000
writes: I sometimes work on the holidays, during school vacation...so...I knew this guy for about two years. We are kinda close but I only would like us to be friends and nothing more. We would talk about many topics: marriage, sex, life...in general. So , one day he told me something that pretty much pissed me off. I avoided him the next day between working hours. At each interval he would ask me if I was mad with him and I would say kinda or yes. Must have been like 6 times...(why does it matter if i talk or not) So anywho, I gived a female coworker something for him because he was not there at the moment to collect it and he has been asking me for it. I told him (didnt know her name) and described to him which female coworker I left it with. Then he started making jokes saying" ooh, you mean the one with the pretty eyes, nice legs, nice curves/hips etc. So, I am wondering...why did he have to be so graphic..??? I am not interested in hearing about other women and their bodies.. then right after he asked me if i was still mad at him.
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000 +, writes (12 January 2011):
0000BraveHeart0000 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone. That was really helpful. @Cindy cares, I am not territorial over him. We will ALWAYS be good friends. It is just that, it is so easier to hear about men and their good assests than women. I would not doubt that some women are gifted and sometimes I compliment them.
He was describing this woman repeatedly...nice legs, eyes, hips...what would be next so I kinda stick a pin there at the hips. Though I am pretty sure he wanted to get a reaction. @Largentsgirl89 Yea, St.Vincent and the Grenadines is paradise, you should visit one of these days:)
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Either trying to make you jealous or just being a guy. Men are naturally pretty graphic when it comes to describing women who are "gifted" to a man.
SOunds like you are territorial over him, but I think he likes you as it really sounds like he was trying to gauge your reaction if he was talking about another woman.
By the way, very jealous that you live in Saint Vincent and the Grenadines.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 But... what do you actually want from this guy ?
You say you want you two just to be friends and nothing more.
So, what is it, are your male friends not allowed to joke or comment about other girls ?... He was not being "graphic", he was just joking !. Ok, may be it was a lame or corny joke, but hey not everybody is born a comedian,- I can't see in his words anything at all showing his intention to disrespect you or embarass you, at most just to needle you a little ( and apparently, he succeeded beautifully !).
My point is, you can't be so territorial about your " just friends". If you are just friends, he is free to notice and compliment other girls and say all he wants ( within the limits of good taste ,of course ).
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 If you don't want to hear him speaking so graphically about women, then next time he asks you if your mad, just say "yes, because i don't want to hear you talking graphically about other women, it make me feel uncomfortable"
He can use other ways to describe your co-workers, for example saying "the blonde" "the one with the green jumper on" maybe explain that to him too. Now, he may laugh in your face and think it a little childish. But stand your ground. If you don't like to hear it, then don't stand for it. Good luck x
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