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30-35,
*arahh._x
writes:Me and my boyfriend have had sex a few times now and i was wondering Why can't he make me orgasm? We've had a lot of foreplay but he doesn't come either. I'm usually on top and we're quite rough but neither of us come! Help!
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reader, Gadgetgirl  +, writes (14 January 2011):
You might not fully trust him and he might not fully trust you yet. Or like the other readers have previously stated, you might not orgasm the first few times the two of you have sex. There IS a learning curve. For me, it is about relaxing and not feeling pressured to climax. Sometimes a girl might feel like she's up on a stage when she's reaching orgasm(s). Especially if the guy is pressuring her to come.
I can't recommend sex for you and your bf unless you are in a committed relationship. However, if you are, I would strongly recommend a book called "The Art of the female orgasm". One of my girlfriends gave it to us soon after my husband and I got married. It's an awesome book. I recommend it to all of my newly married girlfriends to give to their husbands. Great book...and great to keep on hand for years to come (No pun intended).
Good luck to you.
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reader, PCUk72 +, writes (14 January 2011):
The best thing is to talk to each other. Are you both relaxed about sex, it should be fun & exciting not stressed. Think about where you have sex, do you have the privacy & time you need to be intimate. Try different positions & take time to explore each other & ask what turns you on. Really great sex can take some time to get to, so think about each occassion as a chance learn from each other. Good luck!
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Believe it or not, a lot of women don't orgasm during intercourse.
Rather than doing it all rough, like you have stated, why don't you actually take it nice and slow... enjoy the moment like you do with the foreplay - you may find that you both orgasm then. Its worked for me! lol.
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reader, omfgbabygirl  +, writes (13 January 2011):
Honestly, you should try masturbating so that YOU know what YOU like. Then, that gives you an idea about what he can do for you. I know it sounds very technical. But especially for girls, it's important to experiment with yourself.
Plus, overall, girls usually NEVER orgasm on the first couple of times they have sex. I know this from experience. It only keeps getting better and better.
Try it out! :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Can you make yourselves orgasm? If you can, then you can guide the other person. It's a learning curve. Everyone is different, so you have to learn what works for each other.
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