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writes:at school there is this one girl who is centre of attention. shes pretty and popular. however, she is downright mean. the other day she thought it would be funny to spill a cup of hot chocolate into my desk that had some of my belongings. i knwo she did it because she kept making snide remarks about it to me. when i tried to tell the teacher there was nothing we could do because i had no proof. i just dont get why mean people like her get to lead a happy school life, all popular when normal people like me get to be the lowlife, non existant losers. i realy want to get recognised for once...what do i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, myp  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 ooo girl.... theres a reason girls like that are popular and consistently happy (or appear to be), they dont care about others feelings or belongings. People like that dont have any respect, if i was in your position i'd be more than infuriated that she even had the nerve to damage my things. The only way to deal with girls like that is too know that your above something so immature. Tell her to stop being a selfish insecure immature childish brat and to leave you alone. if she doesnt comply then at least know in your heart that she does these things because of insecurities... pity her. dont let her win, ignore her and dont let anythng she says or does affect you. just the fact that you dont pay any attenton to her will burn her up in side.
best of luck
message me if you want to talk xx
-Myesha
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (9 August 2008):
 I have an 11 yr old daughter that says exactly the same things as you. The one girl in class that has all the other girls worshipping her. Jade asks me why its not like that for her. All i can think is its confidence. But at the end of the day you dont know whats going on in her life at home. No one is extatically happy all of the time, even if it does look that way.
But i dont envy you youngsters. I can still remember a lad asking me why i was so ugly when i was about 10. He was no oil painting, but it hurt me bad, and i have never forgotten that to this day.
But i'm 37 now hunni, and have children your age, ones 11 and the other is 13. Its much better when you get older i tell my daughter. People are not so nasty to each other. Some are! But mostly they're not.
Hang on in there.
C xxxxx
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reader, thats_not_my_name +, writes (9 August 2008):
 hey! i can think of a few girls at my school who are like this; complete (insert swearword here!) who do horrible things to people for no reason. and you know what? they are just a waste of space and the only reason they act like this is because they feel they have to in order to fit in. sure they seem to have their life sorted but deep down they must be really insecure to act out in this way. and i bet the only reason she's so 'popular' is because people are too scared to stand up to her or they know that it's better to be friends with her than not. but they're not her real friends. i bet you are 1000 times more popular than this girl. she probably envies you and therefore she makes fun of you. but you should just hold your head high, cos you have one thing she hasn't got; a nice personality. there are two options you have; ignore her and don't give her the satisfaction of knowing it bothers you. hopefully she'll get bored and give up. however, if you find it too hard to ignore her or her schemes get more malicious and serious then you need to either confront her about why she's doing this or if you think this will involve you getting hurt, tell someone. it's the only way to have this delt with once and for all. maybe there's a teacher you feel you can trust or you could tell your parents and have it dealt with quietly. just don't let her get away with it! good luck, hope i helped and if you ever want to talk, feel free to message me :) xxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): first of all, it may seem like this girl is really happy and has a great life - but there must be a reason why she feels the need to put other ppl down to make herself feel better. she may not have the best home life.
next time she does something like this, stand up for yourself. telling the teacher will help too but not on its own. you need to stand your ground and stop letting her get away with this.
if she does something like this again, look at her smile, and tell her to grow up and find something better to do with her time. then give her 50p or something and tell her to run along....she owes you hot chocolate.
and if she keeps sliding in sly remarks kindly ask her to keep them for someone who cares.
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Well, first of all, don't take this girl's crap. Stand up for yourself and tell her to back off. So you say your an unknown, then what have you got to lose? Just be nice and friendly and you will start to get a reputation for being a good person. And, yes, I think all of us have felt a little non-existant before, but only because we allow ourselves to be. Don't sink into the background, voice your opinions and be yourself. As for the whole, bad people getting good things, unfortunately that is just a fact of life. Sometimes things just aren't fair, but in the long run, I can guarantee that karma will catch up with that girl and give her a good kick up the rear end. Best of luck.
Bendy xx
PS:If this girl actually physically hurts you, tell someone. She has no right to make you feel helpless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): i know that feeling, dont feel bad though. you cant let them get to you.
i was bullied at school too, but you have to stand up for yourself and tell the teacher - even though they mite start calling u a dobber - things will get better - thats the only way i got through it - coz then the kids are watched
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