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writes:Any ideas how I can get my life back on track and a bit more exciting? Recently life has just sort of ground to a halt. I don't go out as much as I used to primarily because all my friends have moved on, meaning that I hardly have any friends around. I have no girlfriend and I live in a flat all by myself.I'm not moping about this, I just need some ideas how get life going again...sitting in every night on my own is getting kind of boring! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): I really do know exactly what you are going through, as the last two of my group of friends moved to different countries last year and then I split up with my ex! Suddenly I was all alone and was getting bored witless sitting in night after night.
I found the really best way of making friends is on evening courses. The prospectuses for the autumn term will be out now so there's no excuse! Think of a skill you've always wanted to learn. Last year I studied a car maintenance course and the only other girl on the course happened to be around my age and we had heaps in common. We are now like sisters! We've had heaps of great nights out. The good thing about courses is that you already have an interest in common to talk about. Good luck!
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 22-25? you're too young to be sitting at home in a flat all alone! my first instinct is to tell you to go out and party. clubs, house parties... you could throw a flat party...
but if that isn't your scene: volunteer, take classes, reconnect with old friends (and by old i mean "oh gosh i haven't heard from you in years" old), redecorate, visit new places and try new things (do you go to the same coffee shop every day? eat the same food?)...
do something you've always wanted to do but never had the time. take day trips.
better yet, try something you promised yourself you never would!
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reader, peeved +, writes (9 August 2008):
Well i was in a similar situation not so long ago. I started by accepting invitations from work colleagues and then actually approached people to do certain activiies. I joined a local canoe club and started a water colour evening course. Its a start, but you HAVE to make the effort, people dont just turn up on your doorstep. It actually is a confidence boosting thing to do. When you do these extra things then your 'free' time is really enjoyable... Online dating is a start too, you can meet people for friendships...
Good luck!
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