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writes:Is the fact that I am embarrassed to introduce my boyfriend to my colleagues, friends, etc. a bad sign? He is a super sweet guy but his grammar is not great, and he is a little rough around the edges. I did introduce him to a very close friend of mine after she asked several times and all she said was, "wow, he's muscular". Am I being a snob? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 October 2009):
You shouldn't need to be ashamed of this guy. If you are, then really you have to let him go to find someone who won't feel this way.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (3 October 2009):
 The worse thing you could ever do is be ashamed of a man you love, merely because of his appearance or level of education, etc.
If it comes down to that, then I would question whether you love him at all.
It seems you're more concerned about your reputation with your friends, than loving him.
On the other hand, your friends could be snobs and ergo you may be a snob because of them.
It all depends on which way you look at it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): Maybe because you seem to care more about what your "friends" think about YOU, than how he feels. That's sad and rude all at the same time.You need to take his feelings into consideration - life's NOT ALL ABOUT YOU. This isn't about his education, or his language skills - it's NOT about how people see YOU...
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reader, Yawzah +, writes (3 October 2009):
You need to choose if he's for you--if so then what's it matter who thinks what? Example, I'm sure you won't like some of your friends bf/gf...opposites attract ya know. You should be having a good time with him, are you?If he treats you right, makes you feel special isn't that more than what your friends make you feel? MHO...
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reader, boo22 +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Hi there, he's a bit of rough isn't he? Whats wrong with that? Just let your mates know and make it a bit more light hearted, so they won't be expecting too much.
Don't try and sell him to your mates as something he's not or it'll just be awkward. Enjoy x
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Yes it is a bad sign that you won't introduce him to your friends...etc, due to embarrassment.
I don't know why you feel so embarrassed, after all you did say he is a super sweet guy. Perhaps because he is rough around the edges and his grammar is not great...
You need to get over this embarrassment, it not fair to him. Think of his good qualities and why you are with him
Then go out and show the world who your super sweet boyfriend is.
Good Luck!
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