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writes:Hi, I am 5' 7" guy and I am not comfortable at all with with my height especially making the first move with girls taller than myself.... And I found myself increasingly attracted to girls taller than me.The worst is I've been rejected before by someone for the specific reason that I am not tall "enough" for her (although she is still shorter than me..zzz)I could understand why most girls would not want a shorter guy since they're on average just about 5'2" to 5'6", guys shorter than that would be quite rare I would imagine. But 5'7" like me are everywhere!?Would love a girlfriend taller than myself but are very negative about it, "believing" that girls ultimately wants guys taller than themselves.Would love to hear some thoughts from girls who are taller than 5'7" on this issue. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Precisely, it's a number's game. The trick is to learn not to take rejection too personally.
See it as if it were an audition. When you get turned down at an audition, it does not mean that you are a lousy actor,ot that you aren't any good,it only means you were not good that specific day for that specific role in that specific movie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice, honest or brutal just throw them please, as I am trying to learn here I do appreciate them.While my style of writing might not be very politically correct or diplomatic, that's just the way I am comfortable expressing myself. Might me a napoleon complex, I am not sure.Is not that I would discriminate or reject shorter girls but for my lazy ass to make any effort, it would take a tall girl to catch my attention in the first place. A major reason for that is because I get nervous with taller girls or any very attractive girls of all forms whereas I would not be nervous at all with girls I am not interested in romantically or sexually. My emotions doesn't lie.I want to overcome my nervousness/weakness with taller girls, which is an important physical feature I am attracted to, at an initial encounter. And for what Tisha and Cindy mentioned, I guess its a number's game?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): Girls 5'2-5'6 are everywhere too so why not ask them out? You are asking others to be more flexible and less judgmental than you are willing to be, lol! If you can't beat 'em..join 'em!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I'm not taller than 5'7" but one of my good friends is 5'9" and she married a great guy who is 5'6". They have two children now. Charles is a great guy, very smart and funny, now balding, alas, but good fun to be around. His last two girlfriends before his wife, one was much taller than he is, the other was pretty and petite.
The point is that it's how you feel about yourself that will attract people, and women in particular, to you. You are going to encounter girls who simply aren't attracted to you. You can't take it personally, hard as that might be to do.
If you are going to reject girls based on their height then you will have to be prepared to have the same thing happen to you. Right?
Just work on your sense of humor, confidence and you'll draw people to you based on a good personality, tall and short alike.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (10 March 2011):
I am a short ( 5'3") woman , and I think you'll hate what I am gonna say , but my advice is :
go for it . Ask taller girls out. You may get some rejections, but , the fact is that ALSO short girls reject short guys , so since you risk rejection anyway, might as well to be hung for a sheep than for a lamb,
Wait. Let me rephrase it in a better way. There are two categories of women, those that will reject men based on their physical appearance, and those who won't.
Of course I hope you'll only meet girls from the second category. But, since you are bound to meet some from the first too, at least it makes sense to try for those women you are really attracted to - you don't have more guarantee of success , I think, if you "settle " for shorter girls.
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