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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. we fell in love during the first month of our relationship. I have loved him ever since and believed he loved me too, but lately things have been a little rocky. There has been a lot of breaking up and making up but we still claim to be very much in love. He went to jail recently and he asked me o call his sister for bai money. When I called, his sister nad me spoke for quite a while. I asked her how old he was because i have been skeptical of the age he told me (22) since we met. I am 19. His sister told me that he is actually 29! I know she would not lie to me. He claims to love me and everyday I talk to him he tells me he wants me to be his wife but i don't know...why would he lie about his age if he wanted to marry me? It really wouldn't matter to me how old he was because I love him with my whole heart and I really would like to be his wife and I've told him this: that his age didn't matter. I am not sure if I should end it right now, wait til he gets out or just ignore it and be happy with him. what dod you think?
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reader, junebug +, writes (13 August 2008):
i think u need to wait till he gets out and talk to him face to face.if u guys love each other then u guys can get over this and u better tell him he better not lie 2 u anymore.good luck.like always say 2 ppl love conquers all!honey i know its hard. Been there done that.but please dont tell them while in jail cuz he cant do nothing about it.he cant come over to ur house and hold u and tell u how sorry he is or anything.all he can do is sit there in a lil cell and think and think.good luck.xoxoxoxo
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 i personally do not like liars or lies of any shape or size. so i wouldn't ignore it or go back to being blissfully happy with him. he needs to justify it, or at least tell you his age himself. i don't know if you want to wait for him to come out and say it or if you want to confront him but something has got to happen.and are you sure you want to be with him? i mean you are 19, young, and dating a liar who is currently in jail... do you want to commit yourself to him? i'm sure there are many great people you aren't even giving a passing glance because of how you feel but maybe you should keep your eyes open? think of all the musicians, artists, athletes, hotties out there who would love you and not lie!i'm 19 and the last guy i dated was just a surfer bum hippie occasional stoner or so i thought. turns out his parents were millionaires and he was a straight a student to boot... and he was someone i never would have dated had i not actively tried to overcome my stereotypes and gotten to know him! he was not my type at all, which was why things only lasted 6 months. but still. it really opened my eyes.good luck!
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reader, oikid11 +, writes (13 August 2008):
 I wouldn't worry. Maybe he had a reason, or aid something,. and you misinterpeted it. I've heard numbers like 19, and I'll go:OK, 23. I'll mix it up with other numbers. So before you accuse him at all, just say: "Ohh, ho9w old are you again?" or something like that. If he loves, you, he won't care, and just tell you, not suspecting anything.
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