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writes: my friend was not loyal to me i cheated on my girlfriend and he chose to be with her by confessing to her....who is right here.......
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reader, gigi_fire  +, writes (17 February 2010):
 Well its not about where the loyalties lie but where you want to lie. Be it in your girlfriends arms on whom you cheated or in the arms of whom you cheated her with.
You have to come clean both ways.
Come clean with her and tell her that you won't do it again if you want to be with her.
If you don't want her then also tell her about what happened that it won't work out. At least she'll respect you for being a man.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (16 February 2010):
Can't u see man his feelings for this girl are more powerful than his friendship with you. You cheated hell she deserves to know that. Maybe he just saw his chance to swoop in but regardless his actions don't give any righteousness to your actions. You messed up dude accept it and move on
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 February 2010):
 You cheated. You got busted.
Some say bro's before ho's, but you.. were a ho too.. so, a doubly screwed..
I wish your ex-gf Good luck!
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reader, gaurav1jha +, writes (16 February 2010):
 You know two qualities that humans are blessed with compared to other species?
1. ONLY HUMAN REALIZE AND ACCEPT THEIR MISTAKES AND LEARN FROM IT.
2. ONLY HUMANS CAN CHEER UP FOR THEIR FOES.
Please Keep it in Mind... Before pointing out others mistake Its important to go for self realization and accept your own.
After looking at your various post only thing that i would like to say is PLEASE! Bring Simplicity to your life and you won't feel low again.
SO, Instead of posting your point of view in a rhetorical ways you should better go and confess your deeds and ask for forgiveness. and if you really still have love for that girl then its better to say Thanks to your friend.
Although its a hard step, but thats what humans've been doing since ages.
Believe me, After confessing the truth, You would feel Happy about yourself.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (16 February 2010):
So basically you are just going to keep posting and posting your question in different ways until you get the answer you want? You don't want genuine advice, you just want people to agree with you.
You're not listening. Good luck. Aunts & Uncles, he's gotten TONS of feedback on his situation which is much more complex than he states here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): You cheated, you are in the wrong. Your friend was saving your gf from finding out some other way. I would rather be told by a friend if my bf was cheating on me. It's not a question of loyalty.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 Neither of you are really in the right. If he was your best friend then technically he should have stood by you rather than going after your girlfriend. But then again the moment you cheated on your girlfriend was the moment you lost all ability to be "right" in this situation.
So all in all it depends which way you look at it. From a friendship point of view - yes he was wrong but clearly he loves her so much that he is willing to sacrifice his relationship. And maybe you were not such a great friend, after all you did threaten to kill him so I guess he is not too upset you are no longer friends.
But when you look at the situation from the point of view of your behaviour, then surely anyone who is being cheated on and lied to deserves to know about it? After all, if my boyfriend's best friend told me my boyfriend was cheating then I would really appreciate the honesty. So really what he did was an honorable and good thing because he told the truth, unlike you.
As a final point - please stop posting questions now about the same topic, I think you have received a lot of good answers from the aunts/uncles on here so now is the time to just accept the situation and maybe listen to the advice you have been given. If you are looking for someone to tell you how your friend is a terrible person and you have done nothing wrong, well I'm sorry but you are not going to find it on this site. You are looking for someone to take your side, but unfortunately most people do not look kindly upon people who cheat and lie.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 February 2010):
You cheated. Your own fault. Don't cheat again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): You are still not in the right!
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 I am inclined to rage, seeing as this is your 3rd post on the same topic, but I won't.
Sir, you are not the one in the right. That is all.
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