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writes:Dear all,I don't really have a relationship question but if anyone could give me some advice I'd really grateful.Basically, I'm struggling to cope with my emotions. I've gone through a lot of changes over the last year and I've also been under a lot of stress. This time last year it was all going on and, looking back, due to exams, I don't feel I actually dealt with my emotions at the time. What makes it worse is that I went to uni in September so I was able to escape all the problems that were going on at home. I love my home and miss it when I'm away but when I come back old emotions surface. I feel that I haven't moved on because I suppose I've escaped from it instead. The world that means so much to me has moved on without me, and I can't deal with that. Being home unsettles me. Whenever I'm home, I want to go back to uni, but when I'm at uni, I want to come home! I feel like I don't belong anywhere.Sorry for being so vague but if I go into details I'd write an essay! Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): Hey. I originally posted this question. Basically, this time last year we were in and out of hospital with my grandparents. One, unfortunately, passed away in the same week as my exams and another suffered a serious stroke a few days later; but I concentrated on my A Levels. My other grandparents are also very unwell and need care. Life for us as a family will never be the same now. Both my parents had problems at work and my mum was also ill. She's still recovering. At the time I was seeing a guy who was one of the only people who could make me happy but it ended just before I went to uni. When I think about everything, it's the situation with my family that upsets me the most. In a matter of months, everything I've ever known changed. I think uni offered me an escape from everything but now I can't handle being home. I hope this helps.
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reader, PortOr  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Hey .... you are not alone .... I was exactly like you when i was in University not long ago. I always felt anxious. It was hard for me to cope up with things. Now I am definitely better. I dont want to spurt out my personal details here. But I am ok with discusing things in the public forum. If you are interested to get my story, please message me using the private mail feature in dearCupid and I'll respond back. I can list what I did and how i dealt with with Unviersity there.
Wish you good luck.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (26 January 2011):
 I agree with Dirtball... additional information would be helpful. It sounds like something painful happened last year at this time, and you have not resolved your feelings regarding this issue. Without knowing more, I can only say that problems don't go away on their own. The longer they remain unresolved, the more they will weigh you down.
When I was a teenager, I heard the saying, "Wherever you go, there you are." This can be interpreted in many ways, but I see it as meaning... if you are unhappy in one place, inevitably, you will be unhappy in another because the problem lies within. All you are doing is moving your problem elsewhere.
I do hope you will share some more information, so we can help you better. Good luck!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Unfortunately some more details are going to be necessary in order to offer any useful advice beyond generalities.
What was it that happened at the end of last year? What is it you feel like you escaped from? Do you keep in touch with anyone from home?
It's not uncommon to get home sick when away for a period of time. I think it's pretty safe to assume that's why you want to go home when you are at uni. But the other one is a little more difficult to assess without some more info.
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