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writes:I'm trying to figure out if my SIL wants to have sex with me. I work at night so I've get off in the early morning hours. Sometimes before I go home(1hour 30min Away) I sleep at my SiL's house for about an hour or two. So one night she says I forgot you were coming by and stay on that side which I thought was weird because I've never heard her say that before cause I do stay to one side of the bed. So when I got up to leave I saw that she was in her bra and panties, so I thought that's why she said what she said what she said. I'm like ok.The next time I call first to let her kno I was coming by, So she could be descent when I came over there. I sleep, wake up I see the same thing. Is she sending me signals that she wants to have sex?Curious
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reader, escribanus  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 No, maybe she really forgot you were there. The fact is that maybe she sees you as a brother and have no fear of you.
My advice, call her before you go to her house. Be always a respectful gentleman.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (12 September 2008):
 No worries sweetie!!
I think he has a grip all to well and may have been trying to get a rise from me. Not happening...lol
Silly stuff!! and yes it was sort of funny.
Have a good one!
Michelle
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reader, GeraldLevert +, writes (11 September 2008):
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Sorry i responded to u and someone else together my apologies. I guess he doesn't have a grip on reality but it was funny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): not true "michelleAKAmandi" in fact its a very good idea and Im going to try it with my SIL, if i get caught i have a perfect excuse for my wife and if she wants it i get to have sex with my SIL. win-win situation.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (11 September 2008):
Hey there again Gerald,
Posting in reference to me saying, I'm not sure where the, acting as if you were asleep, comment come from in my previous answer.
I went through the answers again and see where male anonymous mentioned playing as if you were asleep.
How stupid!
again... good luck!!
Michelle
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (11 September 2008):
I must have missed something somewhere about the, "rolling over acting as if your asleep" comment.
You're very welcome and great idea about the air mattress, however; I hope you understand if she did such in the bedroom, she'll possibly try it another way.
I'm just wanting you to be aware that some women can be vindictive creatures. You, being the one, that can stop it, I hope you will wake up if there is another attempt and not go back there.
It's great your wife trust you to such lengths, just don't let it bite you in the ass later.
To the poster above me: anonymous...
I wouldn't say he's sending mixed signals and if him going in there with an air mattress doesn't let her know he's not interested, then she's just stupid anyway.
Not saying that will stop her by any means, but it should wake her up to the fact he's not up for her BS.
Good luck Gerald, be careful and let us know how the air mattress works out.
Michelle
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reader, GeraldLevert +, writes (11 September 2008):
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My wife and I both sleep in her bed. I only go there when i have long nights when i know i most likely will not make it home. She just moved there doesnt have funiture. The rolling over and acting like im sleep, too funny. No thanks. Thanks for the answers I got an air mattress before work.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): im guessing you must be a bit simple because most people can see its wrong to even be in bed with her in the first place.
YOU mate are the one sending the wrong singnals!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Maybe she's trying to set you up? You make a move then she'll turn around and push you off and tell the sister. You should tell your wife, If I was her I would want to know
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (11 September 2008):
I'm sticking to my guns and questions in my first/previous answer. You are asking for trouble and possibly not realizing it, I wouldn't consider another minute there.
You seem to be a nice guy and maybe you don't realize what harm this woman, your sister in law, can cause you.
Take into consideration of the worst that can happen and go from there. Better to be safe than sorry.
Wish you well...
Michelle
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reader, Artistry +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Hi, Thanks for responding. Great, it sounds like you have you head on straight, good for you. Sometimes siblings will have rivaries that carry over into adulthoop, now that I know the relative status. Your sister-in-law is competing with her sister, she wants to see if she can pull you into something, to show her sister that she can have you, if she wants you, she is playing a game. There are many people like her, no boundaries. Be very careful, it would certainly be good to find another place to sleep. If she does this again, you need to tell her to cut out the crap, or tell your wife. Seriously, she is looking for a feather in her cap, with no real interest in you, she wants to prove that she is more attractive than your wife. This is my opinion. She has probably been doing this since she was younger, trying to steal her sister's boyfriend just for the sport of it. Be very careful as I stated. Stay in touch. Take care, I still would like to see you out of harm's way, this lady is a baracuda. :o).
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Thanks for the follow up. Sometimes answers take a while to get through the moderation process.
It IS kind of odd that she's doing that, to me, anyway. There may be people out there who don't mind revealing a bit more of their bodies in undies and mean nothing by it, but I think it's better to err on the side of modesty, don't you?
One more thing I suggest for you. Tell her that you are uncomfortable that she is in her underwear around you, and ask her to wear a robe or shorts and a t-shirt while you're there. This is something that could come back and bite you in the rear if things get misconstrued by your wife or your sister-in-law.
Hope things work out for you!
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reader, GeraldLevert +, writes (11 September 2008):
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It's my wife's sister. Yes it is the only place. If there was a desk where I work trust I would have used it.I don't know if you can see the response I gave to Tisha-1.
But I have no intentions doing anything to cause any problems in my relationship. I wasn't asking should I have sex with her. I just thought it was odd what she did.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (11 September 2008):
Hi there, Is that the only place you can find to sleep? I don't know what kind of place you work , but why not put your head down on a desk or something, for the time you spend over there. This is going to lead to a lot of problems, for you and, if you are married, your wife, and since I don't know if this is your wife's sister or your brother's wife, I'll just say leave it to you to determine who else might be hurt by this. Your sister-in-law is playing a game. Stay out of her house at night, if you don't want to start a family mess. Don't let a short term urge lead you to long term confusion. There are choices that we all make, that determine, which way our lives move forward or not, think about the situation, you are allowing yourself to be placed in. Find someplace else to sleep, period, if not, someone is going to, more than likely, be divorced. Take care and think about what would be best, in the long run, not what might feel good for the moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Nobody knows what shes thinking, she might just be really comfortable around you. If you want to have sex with her just act like your sleep then roll over and grab her chest while shes awake, if she moves your hand or tells you to stop or something along those lines she probably doesn't want to have sex with you, if shes awake and doesn't move your hand then take it from there and if she tells your wife then just say you were dreaming about her and did that unconsciously. Have fun.
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reader, GeraldLevert +, writes (11 September 2008):
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I definetly don't want to ruin my marriage. Air mattress good idea thanks. It wasn't about fantasy, No I was not looking for advice to act on it, no. I just thought it was odd. I just wanted someone else to see it from the outside. Thank u.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 September 2008):
I have no earthly idea what she could be thinking, but if she's wearing her underwear in front of you, um, wouldn't your wife or your brother mind? I sure would.
I don't want to ruin your fantasy for you, but in real life, sleeping with your SIL could ruin a couple of marriages. Is it worth it?
My suggestion is to invest in one of those Aerobed inflatable mattresses, twin size, and use it when you stop to sleep there. Stay out of her bed.
If you're looking for advice on whether or not to proceed with trying to sleep with her, you'll have to wait for another aunt to respond. Sorry.
Take care.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (11 September 2008):
First off, I don't understand you spending the night at your SIL's house to sleep an hour and then go home.
Second I definitely don't understand why you would sleep in bed with her. I mean she has to have a couch or even an extra bed.
If it truly was a mistake the first time, you called to make sure it wouldn't happen again, good for you, and it DID!! There is your answer.
You absolutely should NOT go to her house for another morning. You will be asking for trouble and that is what you will get.
Come on... think about it.
Reverse the role: your wife goes to your brother's house to sleep for an hour before going home. Would you be okay with her sleeping in the same bed with him?
Then... if he did as your SIL did to you about the clothes... What advise would you give her? What would you say about it?
She's going to cause you trouble!!]
Keep me/us informed,
Michelle
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reader, Vanessa1983  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Well not sure what her intentions are but you shouldnt really be sharing a bed with her anyway. You should probably take the couch or something....? Dont know....
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