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writes:Heyy! I was just wondering, what age did you start dating/were allowed to date?? Because I have had a crush on the same boy (we are both 15) for a few years now, but my mum said that even sixth formers (16-18yrs)only have a boy/girlfriend for a 'fashion statement'!!!!!!So, my question is:When did you start dating / when were you allowed to start dating???Thanks =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): i was allowed to date at 11
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): I suggest slowing down a bit. You're on the path to a bad reputation and i'm afraid you can't blame your friends for being a bad influence. We are all our own people and think for ourselves. You don't want to tell your first love that you've had 15 boyfriends do you? He'll just feel like a notch on your belt. I know it's all fun right now and you're just enjoying yourself, but try to think and act toward your future as well. I have regrets. It's not a good feeling. ~SY.
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reader, AuntAnya +, writes (12 June 2009):
AuntAnya is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your answers so far =)
The thing is, I have had about 10 boyfriends between the age of 11 and 14 (haven't had one for a year) but they wernt propper boyfriends. I never went out with them, just hung about in school. My ex best friend was a REALLY bad influence (drugs and sex and smoking) and I gave one of my 'boyfriends' a handjob and he fingered me. What I'm trying to say is I have had some action, but I just want a caring relationship with my crush (who says he doesn't like me in that way!!)
Thanks again for all your answers =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): i was allowed to date when i turned 16. that was the "official" age for my sister and I but of course, we didnt listen. i had my first boyfriend when i was 14 about to turn 15 and now im 17 and im still with him. altough our relationship is very great and i love him with every beat of my heart, i really do think you should listen to your mom. you will miss out on alot if this relationship lasts long trust me. im in my last year of high school and i've only had ONE boyfriend. i guess what im saying is that if you do choose to disobey your mom, like i did, dont get too tied down to just one guy, your young have fun and expirement with them. im not saying go be a slut and sleep with them or anything like that, just get to know them.
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reader, Blondy  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 My parents are really religious and I wasn't 'allowed' to start dating until I was 16. I didn't care about that though, I was never into their religion and it was my life so I didn't listen to that rule. I started dating my first boyfriend when I was 13, we dated for a year and a half, it was a great relationship, he was very sweet and always very respectful. I was always open about it with my parents, they were mad at me, but at least I wasn't lying to them about it.
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reader, Knight_in_White_Satin +, writes (11 June 2009):
 My parents never set any boundaries as far as when i could start dating, but i had my 1st boyfriend at 14 and it lasted for about a year. It's all about the individual
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (11 June 2009):
I was able to start dating when I was 12 years old. All parents are different though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): My parents never governed the way I lived, though they did set 'obstacles' for me to 'guide' me away from what they felt could have had a negative influence on me. They never said what I could not or could do. Instead, they taught me about the treatment of others, treatment of myself and the general nagging that my mother makes like, "Come home earlier" and "Don't drink too much".
As for 'dating', it wasn't something my parents talked about with me. They gave me the freedom to make mistakes and to learn from them and influenced me towards a direction where if lost, I can go back on the 'correct' path.
It all came down to: when I am ready, then I am ready.
They were liberally conservative if that means anything to any of you. ^o^
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reader, heartbroken20 +, writes (11 June 2009):
My mother wouldn't even let me talk to boys on the phone when I was 16. That doesn't mean I never did, of course!
I never really dated throughout high school; I always had low self-esteem. My first kiss was at 13. It was only one kiss and I never ended up seeing the guy (good thing, too, I now realize what a creeper he was, seeing as he was 18 at the time and got some other 15-year-old girl pregnant about 8 months later). Second kiss was at 16 with a girl. It was fun, we were very good friends, but we never really dated. My parents still don't know about any of this. :P I'm sure it will come out sooner or later; I'm only 20.
I never truly started "dating" until I graduated and moved on from high school. I live with my dad and go to college, and he couldn't care less what I do, really.
I wouldn't say dating in high school is always a "fashion statement", though it can be. I think, as you get older, you tend to minimize the thoughts and emotions you had when you were younger. Maybe that's partly why your mom would say something like that. Really, though, I would say it's mostly because she loves you and doesn't want anything bad to happen to you (broken heart, pregnancy scare, etc.).
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 I started seriously seeing a guy when i was 16. it ended horribly, lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I was allowed at 16.
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): i was allowed to start dating from the start of high school i had my first boyfriend at 12 but it wasnt a propa relationship it was just friends wiht a title lol n then i had my first 'propa' relationship with someone i truly loved at 14 and he was my first kiss :) honestly i dont regret going out with him but i might have been too young looking back and i got hurt badly. i think it dependss on the person on how mature they are if its a propa relationship some of my friends hav been with their boyfriends since yr 7 and are still togetha 7 years later
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reader, Hasden  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 My first official girlfriend is when I was 16 and I think you're ready to start dating because you've had crush on him for a very long time.
So all you have to do is relax and I hope you'll be lucky ^^
Good luck........ !!
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reader, Smellyellie +, writes (11 June 2009):
 You are aloud to satart dating at any age. As long as you feel that you want to go out with boy.
i started dating as soon as i started secondary school and there is nothing wrong with that.
Your mum does have a point however but then again she is a little bit wrong as older people have alot more maturity then people in there early teens. As long as you feel that you are ready to start dating then go for it there is nothing to stop you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): i could date at any age my mum knew and accepted it was my life my choice etc x
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