A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Aunts, after almost 10 years in a relationship with my girlfriend, I proposed to her this past weekend. I did not planed to cry or anything, but as soon as I was asking her to be my wife, y started crying and I couldn't stop. I really felt bad because it was not planned and never thought that could happen because days before that I was very confident everything was going to be fine. Fortunately she said yes (she didn't cried). Do you guys have experienced this before? For the girls out there, what would you think or feel of your man if he cried while proposing you?Thank you! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, femmenoir  +, writes (11 May 2018):
 You sound like the perfect gentleman!!
You're the type of guy, so many millions of girls globally, would simply love to have in their lives.
Most women would agree, a man who wears his heart on his sleeve is pretty special.
We need more men out there, just like you.
When you proposed to your gf, you were real, you were sincere in intent & above all else, you were transparent. Your gf, surely would have been very touched, by your expression & depth of feeling toward her.
It's really funny, because some men are taught to "not" cry from a young age, so they therefore "suppress" their emotions, however, it's so important that within an intimate relationship, a man can feel free to express his true emotions.
We women love this so much & we do appreciate this.
I'd be quite confident in saying, if there are women out there, who don't like men expressing openly, their true emotions, or aren't overly appreciative of this, they'd be in the extreme, lower percentages.
You sound as though you'll make a wonderful husband & supporter to your future wife.
I wish you both a wonderful future together.
A
female
reader, Dionee'  +, writes (10 May 2018):
 Personally I find it sweet, flattering, romantic and basically every other good word in the dictionary. I'm a hopeless romantic and I find a guy who shows emotion, really attractive and in tune with himself. It's amazing.
I hope that things work out great for the two of you... congratulations :).
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2018): Personally, I feel it's a very strong and emotional side of a man to let out the tears especially in front of the woman he loves or confides. Since childhood, we are instilled in the belief that men don't cry unless they are weak or women cry because they aren't emotionally strong, which is utter rubbish.
Most women will find it sweet and I'm sure you must be knowing your fiancée better than any of us (you have been together for a decade!).
Heartiest congratulations on your wedding!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2018): I'm the original OP.
Thank you for your comments! I was very afraid she would find me crying like a red flag.
I cried in part of happiness, and another part of sadness for making her wait so long (10 years). I wish I could have asked her sooner but my economy was really bad back then.
THANK YOU!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2018): I think I would be flattered, because I have never seen my man cry about anything. I would take it to mean that he was very emotionally moved and that it meant a lot to him, so I would take it as a positive thing.
Do not worry, she said yes! Congratulations!
...............................
A
female
reader, Soulstar +, writes (8 May 2018):
Too few men know how to weep truly. They think it is manly to not weep - yet many strong men weep. To weep during a particularly emotionally charged moment shows that you are a well-balanced man who has learnt to express your feelings. Don't be ashamed of it or think you are any less of a man. Most women will find it endearing but of course, the occasion should be fitting.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2018): Crying because you're happy or sad?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2018): Women do not shy away from displays of emotion like that, we do not consider them a negative thing at all! I know lots of men think crying is a sign of weakness for some reason, but it is not thought of like that by women. We appreciate when some of the walls come down and we can see a true emotion from our man now and then.I am sure she loved your proposal and it will be a moment she treasures the memory of forever. She said YES!! That is all that matters. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!All the best,R
...............................
A
female
reader, mystiquek  +, writes (8 May 2018):
 I would be thrilled if a man proposes to me and he began crying because it would show me how much it meant to him and then he was overcome with emotion. What a sweet caring and sensitive man you must be! Its nothing to be ashamed of sweetie. The best of luck to you!
...............................
A
male
reader, N91  +, writes (8 May 2018):
 I don’t think many people plan to cry during certain situations. Everyone deals with the emotional side of things differently.
I think the fact that you struggled to keep things together shows how much you care about her and I think she will of noted that. I don’t think she would see it in a negative way at all and I don’t think it’s a bad thing that she didn’t cry either, she may be better in emotional situations.
Congratulations by the way.
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 May 2018):
 I would have been touched. I would have find it endearing , moving and.. well, cute :).
Don't feel bad, there's nothing strange if , in a moment that must have been very ontense for you, you got a bit overwhelmed and carried away by your emotions.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2018): One thing I can tell you, I cried too many years ago the night when my first true love told me she was leaving me for another man. Any multitude of reasons could have caused you crying like being overwhelmed with joy or the solemnness of the moment or saddness for losing your freedom. I honestly think you shouldn't worry about it. It was just one of those moments.
...............................
A
female
reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (8 May 2018):
 Oh sweetheart, I cannot speak for your girlfriend as I do not know her, but I would be so touched if someone cried while proposing. I am sure the proposal was made even more special by your outpouring of emotion.
Years from now, when you are talking about your proposal, you will be able to smile fondly and say "I cried while asking you to marry me because it was such an emotional moment".
Wishing you both a wonderful life together.
...............................
|
