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writes:Maybe I'm crazy, but I always thought there was an unwritten rule that its wrong to get with one of your ex's friends. My boyfriend and I have been broken up officially for almost a year, but after six months we got back together and were seeing each other again, just not "officially". Because of something dumb, we stopped talking for like three weeks. During that time, he came to a party at my house and ended up hooking up with my friend that's also a huge slut. Ok, ya I was really pissed, like who does that, hooks up with someone in their ex's house right in front of them. I say a bunch of angry things to him and pretty much tell him he is disgusting and I won't talk to him unless he talks first. We stop talking and two months pass. Friends keep telling me he's upset cuz I won't talk to him and still wants me. So this weekend, my brother has him over to hang out with a few people, one of them a previously close friend of mine. I don't want to hang out because of the issues between us, and I was busy anyways. To make a long story short, he ends up hooking up with this semi friend. What is wrong with him, if he wants me back, why does he keep doing this stuff in my house that he knows will make me mad and thinking he is gross.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): in response to poster TexInTheCity - he is always around because he is my brother's best friend. And yes, its my parents house. And neither my brother or I can afford to move out on our own yet.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 January 2011):
 Well OP, it means he's an idiot. Him thinking you wouldn't find out is about the lamest excuse ever. If he was trying to get you back, he failed. At least he should have. Move on to someone who isn't a dumbass.
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reader, TexInTheCity +, writes (18 January 2011):
Why don't you just move out? Then you wouldn't have to see him any more. You didn't answer any of my questions. Just leave when he shows up. Go to someone elses house or go clubbing or something. If you dumped him then he's trying to get back at you, and it's working coz you are here asking. Ignore him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): as the original poster, here's a couple more details. I was the one who dumped him, and he's been trying to get me back ever since. The first time he blamed it on his being really drunk and being upset that another guy was hitting on me. This last time, I think he thought I wouldn't find out. He only made out with her, drunk again. He also was really upset that I found out "because now I hate him". I just don't understand him
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 January 2011):
Yeah, he definitely doesn't want you back.
Also, hooking up with your friends isn't off limits for him. Why would he care? It's him who should be off limits to your friends. They should be the ones who don't want to hook up with him out of respect to you. If they are willing to go behind your back like that, then they might not be that great of friends to begin with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): He doesn't want you back. It's pretty obvious. He's hooking up with other girls, that says it all.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 It doesn't sound like he wants you back. If he tells you so then don't believe him, action speaks louder than words. He sounds like a manwhore to be honest who hooks up with just about anyone who is willing. Let him slide and find a better man!
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reader, TexInTheCity +, writes (18 January 2011):
Why is your brother still hanging out with your ex? And why are you living with your brother? Are you in your parents house? Get out! Get your own place and you won't have to put up with this sh#t.
Your ex doesnt want you back, don't believe rumors when he is doing this sh#t in your face! There's nothing confusing about this. He's into doing random girls in your house, that says he could give a sh#t about you!
Get outta there, jeez!
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (18 January 2011):
Don't waste anymore of your time on this looser! He sounds horrible and as for your so called friends, I would dump them too for having sex with him. If you really care about someone you would not treat them in this manner, this goes for partners and friends.
Can't you see he is laughing right in your face... he has no respect for you or your feelings.
Find yourself a nice guy, someone who actually deserves you!
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