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writes:Hey guys....I read something once that "Giving a man a blow job is like giving a woman flowers" What kind of feeling does it give a man when she wants to give him a bj? Is it just a feel good sexual act or do you guys feel a connection with that woman? Do you feel a bond? What does it feel like? I know I am probably really overthinking this whole question. I just want to know what goes thru a mans mind when it comes to bj's. I guess for me it is another form of making love to my man, I want him to feel so good. I just wondered if it is just for pure pleasure for a man or if they see beyond the actual act.
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reader, justsomeoldman +, writes (27 April 2013):
Years ago a girlfriend gave me oral, basically, all the time. Everyday, whenever we went out, usually 2-3 times on a date, sometimes 3-4. When she came over, that was one of the first things that happened. It was just something she was willing to do for me.She was a nurse; In her late 30's, nearing 40, I was just 25. Whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted it, and I liked fellatio...She swallowed, it was wonderful. For years I didn't even know some women didn't like swallowing...The went on for about a year and sometime during that first month I fell in love with her.And I began to hate myself for cuming in her. But that's how our relationship was tuned. I would try to have vaginal sex but it was impossible, I would always just give her my cock, that's what we were used to... For me, change was just too hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Personally, it gives me a feeling of complete acceptance. It's like a kiss to my most masculine of places. Her willingness to devour me sexually...literally. That is a huge turnon to me. So I guess you could say it makes me feel like a man, a bit dominant, a bit vulnerable, even a bit used. There is something simultaneously intimate and animalistic about it. If you could put a kiss as intimate and anal as animalistic, a BJ has elements of both. THat's why it never gets old, and is for me, possibly better than sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): To be completely honest, I often find myself wondering if the woman is really enjoying it, or if she thinks it's unpleasant but something she has to do. I don't want a woman to do something she doesn't like to do just for my pleasure. I'd rather find something we both really like.
But, I will say, they are very effective when it comes to getting wood quickly after I've come once or twice already. I'm more than Ok with it if I know a woman is doing it because she wants me to get wood because she wants more.
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reader, Odds +, writes (22 March 2011):
 During the act? Thoughts don't really translate into words. It's just awesome. Never gets old.
After, though, is when I really think about how great it is. It's a great expression of devotion from a woman, and I realize that. It's reinforces my feelings toward her, particularly if she swallows.
You may be overthinking it a bit, but hopefully that answers things for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I think the phrase is trying to say it's a gift they don't really get any physical pleasure from. Sure, most women like to please their man, and a BJ is pretty pleasing!
Emotionally, I don't feel any emotion... I feel pleasure and concentrate of coming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): It's just a sexual release and not bonding. Bonding is respect and trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): Oh dear, let ask yourself, how would you feel when a man goes down on you? Do you feel connection or love? Your mind goes blank and you just feel good. Then don't wonder the same question and expect much from a man. Although one thing for sure, both you and him feel that you care each other's need when you both go down on each other. That makes a great relationship.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (22 March 2011):
it depends on the guy. I see a woman that would suck on a penis is C***ksucker that i wouldn't ever consider as a life partner. I would wonder how many more penis she been sucking on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): BJ's don't make connections, neither does intercourse. They reinforce emotional connections.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 I don't even like BJs, never have never will. I like to be more involved. I bet there's plenty of men like me. I'd prefer to get flowers. I don't kno why women insist on doing it to me. I guess they expect that I will like it. I wonder if they like it.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Giving a man a blow job is like giving a woman flowers...
Well yes and no. Yes it is, but not in the way I suspect you're interpreting that saying.
Since we're generalizing, giving a woman flowers is romantic and that's what women want. Romance. Men don't want romance, they want sex... ergo, giving a man a BJ would be giving him what he wants. At least that's the way I interpret that saying.
I can't say that emotions really come into play all that much in a BJ for me personally. It just looks good and feels good. I really wouldn't describe it as "making love" or something that is particularly "bonding"...
its just a bunch of flowers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): this is just my opinion but it all depends on what kind of relationship it is. if it's a serious relationship then yes it shows that your concerned with his pleasure. otherwise its just part of sex
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (22 March 2011):
It obviously depends on the guy. Guys react differently to different things; some guys will almost expect oral, where others may really appreciate it.
Personally, I just appreciate the act of the woman opening up. I know its not the most favorable thing for a woman to do (though some really like to do it) and it means a lot that they want to satisfy you that badly.
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