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anonymous
writes:Hiya. I need some help. Basically, my ex sent me a text yesterday, simply saying my name. This made my heart skip, somersult etc. I should explain, this guy was the first ever guy I loved. I thought I had gotten over him, but I'm started to doubt that now. Anyway, we spoke for abit and then he asked "Do you still think of me?" I asked why, and he just went, "I still have the card you sent me, I kept it because it's from you. I don't have the heart to throw it out." This made my heart melt, as it would with a majority of females my age. Then I asked him if he was still in love with me. His reply? "I don't know."And now, he is ignoring me. What does this mean? I still like him, but I don't know. Help please. Thankyou.
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (24 November 2010):
then he deserve one more chance
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Since that's the case, he may be trying to reconnect. But the ignoring you thing still has me thinking he's trying to get over you and move on. However that's the only case when I think it's ok to give it another shot. That case being broken up by external forces, not something relationship related.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe break-up was mainly because I was in hospital for a number of months, and he moved away during that time. Because of the distance, we sadly lost contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe break-up was because I was in hospital for a few months and he moved away. We didn't talk much as we lost each others number.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): The reason for your break- up has much to do with the possibility of a future between the two of you, but you have not yet supplied this information...
Until you do...
He's still got feelings...
-Tante Vic
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reader, Princess Aunty +, writes (23 November 2010):
Dirtball seems to be right.. dwelling in the past might leads to heartache. but you did not mentionned the reason for you guys break up?
if you had maybe we could tell if he is worthy of a chance.
now if you think he deserve to be given a second chance then go ahead.
that boy seems to be interested in you. maybe he wants to return back. and maybe he was trying to avoid calling you but could not control himself and that's why now he is ignoring you. also the things said about that card clearly shows his soft corner for you.
but its upto u to make the right decision
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reader, BunnyAce +, writes (23 November 2010):
 That is one sticky situation. Someone once told me that a person typically never loses feelings for an ex significant other. If you loved him and know him better than most you will always feel connected to him on a deeper level than anyone else.
However, what you left out of this tale is how you guys separated in the first place. I feel like I truely loved two guys in my life out of the various ones I've dated. The first one was still in contact with his exs which I felt in no way comfortable about. I eventually broke up with him. Now his current gf blames me for why he cannot love another to a full extent because I 'crushed him'. He still contacts me here and there. Do I have some feelings left? Sure, but I love someone even more now. Him on the other hand cuts off all contact with his previous gfs right after they break up. He has no feelings for them and it makes me feel confident and comfortable.
So by my rant, I think that perhaps you shouldn't b like me or my ex boyfriend. You should b like my current boyfriend. Let urself break away and find someone better, be the one to ignor him. And if he has strong feelings for you truely, he'll know that he has to try a hell of a lot harder next time to get your attention. More than a mere text of ur name. And if he does try harder then u'll know for sure how much he still cares =) because you r worth it!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (23 November 2010):
He's trying to get over you. Cutting contact is the best way to accomplish that. He is actively working to put your relationship behind him as you should be too.
I know it sucks losing your first love (or any love for that matter). Some of those feelings will always remain, but you can't turn back time. Do your best to put this relationship behind you. Maybe you can be friends in the future, but give him space, and take your own space, so you can get over each other.
Dwelling on the past only leads to heartache. Look toward the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): It is very hard to find closure after a relationship has ended. I myself am going through a breakup aswell. I have made sure I don't contact him at all. However, in your case seeing how he thinks he can stringe you a long and ask you if you still think about him but won't answer your ? means he is still making sure your their as his back up plan. In case he doesn't find what he is looking for he can go back to you. Yes this is hard to hear cause I had to hear it too, that is why I stopped all contact with my ex, cause it hurts to bad especially when you think you are over him and then he pulls at your heart string, take it from me cut that string and slam the door in his face!! You'll find some one better and you will be thanking yourself for walking away from someone like that who thinks it's great to stroke their ego by making sure you still care, don't call him and ignore all his attempts.
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