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writes:Dear LadysWhat attracts you to a man? What do you look for in a man?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, mum2be +, writes (22 March 2007):
A man needs to be funny, smart and have a love for life. If things go wrong, he needs to be able to bounce up again and take it all on the chin. He would need to be happy, as this makes those around him happy. He would need to be caring and compassionate to stand a chance and most definantely he should not be someone who disrespects people.
And, i dont think you should be worrying, as you are still young
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): and just note, girls want confidence, not arrogance! i've met way too many arrogant guys who i think must get confused between the meaning of the two. Sure you can think you are great but try not to express it too much becuase you'll come across as egotistical (huge turn off!). Instead be confident, as in secure, have drive, don't be too indecisive, and stuff like that.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Intellengence and compassion. A lust for life that doesn't dimish with age; therefore - a constant thirst for knowledge. A strong sense of values and morals. Regardless of what he does or how successful he is, he has a sense of himself and his confidence is never mistaken for an egotistical self-indulgence. And - above all else, he has a HUGE sense of humour, life deals you a lot of stuff and it's all in how you handle it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): Intellengence and compassion. A lust for life that doesn't dimish with age; therefore - a constant thirst for knowledge. A strong sense of values and morals. Regardless of what he does or how successful he is, he has a sense of himself and his confidence is never mistaken for an egotistical self-indulgence. And - above all else, he has a HUGE sense of humour, life deals you a lot of stuff and it's all in how you handle it!
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reader, endlesssong  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Not everyone will look for the same thing in a man, so there may be a slight problem in asking such a question. I think the most important thing is someone thats loyal that they can trust and be entirely comfortable with. Someone who is also generally clean is also a good thing. I think its safe to say those are basics that women look for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): Confidence. Self-assuredness. How he treats his mother. Kindness. Caring. Respectful.
A guy needs to be smart enough and well-read enough to carry on an interesting conversation. For a relationship to last, you have to be able to fill in the silence with interesting thoughts (goes for both of you- don't settle for a boring woman).
He needs to be funny enough to keep me entertained, or at least that we can keep each other entertained.
I like a guy who will challenge me in some way that's interesting. For example, maybe I've never been too out-doorsy, but I've always liked the idea of it. A guy that's really into that sort of thing, who will want me to go camping, hiking, fishing, etc., with him ... that expands my life and brings new interests into it and pushes me into fun and exciting new activities. And I like that. Or maybe it's a guy who's really into music, in a way I've never really understood, but I can appreciate b/c he takes the time to explain it to me.
The most important thing is for a guy to have spent the time figuring out who he wants to be and growing into that, not as part of some ploy or scheme to manipulate anyone else's feelings (i.e., "get" a girl), but just b/c it's what he wants. Because that guy realizes that by going for what HE wants, he will be so much more attractive to the girls who will be compatible with him. And he's got the confidence to know what he wants, without needing someone else's approval. And I like that.
A real sense of goodness is also key - I like a guy who really just *cares* about injustices and wants to make them right. A guy who values the right kinds of things (substance over form, people over material goods, etc.) and can hold firm to his beliefs in the face of opposition. Very attractive.
And finally, I won't lie, good looks are important, but probably a lot less than you'd think. There's probably some threshold that's roughly correlated with how pretty a girl is - people tend to date others who are about equally well-endowed in the looks dept. But a guy who generally takes care of himself (i.e., isn't terribly overweight, but doesn't have to be mr muscle man, and skinny is okay, especially for young guys, when it's just a side effect of growth and not an indication of bad health) and makes some effort to comb his hair, etc. ... he can do surprisingly well, even with the most unfortunate of features. the biggest reason better looking guys get more girls is that they exude more confidence, and girls respond to that - a LOT more than they do to looks, or anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): your a bit young to be asking questions like this... but what attracts girls is a guy who can make them laugh a guy with a nice personality, for a guy your age thats what girls look for.
hope thats ok for you xxx
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (22 March 2007):
 What attracts me to a man first is his sense of humor/personality/brains. (combined all in one) Without that, I don't think I could even date the guy. I like a guy to be funny at times, who has a charming personality and also be smart..not Einstein smart, but smart. Physical attraction I will admit is a must also. (but this is different for all women - different strokes for different fokes) To me, there is someone for everyone. It's all about the choice we make in life. Hope this helped!
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