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writes:Dear CupidI am a 30 year old female due to get married in a few months. My fiancé and I are both virgins, we decided to wait till marriage. It's never something I regretted. We have spoken about sex and I have friends who are sexually active so I'm clued up. I asked my fiancé how big his penis is and he told me he is below average 4.5 inch when fully arroused. Like I said I know enough to know that it's small. I don't mean to sound shallow but it's something that's worrying me, what if sex isn't good, what if I don't feel him. Maybe I'm bring silly, but is a 4.5 inch penis enough to satisfy?
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (5 February 2013):
Virginity has no bearing on how close you will be together or how meaningful your relationship will be. The short answer is to have sex and find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2013): Mating with him will only produce more small penised children. How will you explain to your little Timmy that his penis is small? Clearly, you'll have to point your pinky at his dad. If this really bothers you then you might consider buying a small penis sized dildo and see if it's enjoyable. You'll have your answer, he can stay a virgin, and you can be wiser. Good luck. And you know it's only going to get smaller as he ages. Seriously though, please figure this out. Don't settle for him and treat him poorly because you settled.
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reader, Broadminded +, writes (5 February 2013):
 You're first problem is you're 30 and a virgin. You know nothing about sex. It involves much more than intercourse. There's not much anyone can tell you. Experience will solve some of your ignorance but listening to your friend's advice will not help. You might be using his penis size as an excuse when the actual issue could be that you don't want to marry him. What do you think? You already know the answer. Be honest with yourself and drop the sex excuse.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts +, writes (5 February 2013):
 If you keep thinking that less than 4.5 inches is something to be worried about, when it comes to the big night you'll keep thinking about it and THAT is what will impact your sex life. I reckon that for a female to enjoy sex she has to be totally focused on it. If she thinks about something negative or unrelated then it makes orgasming a lot more difficult for her (and then she thinks sex sucks). Your man's job isn't to magically lengthen his penis, it's to make you think of nothing else except him and sex and there are other ways for him to do that ;) like the others said, fingers and tongue and little gadgets and intense foreplay :P plus if it's too big, it's more likely to hurt and that's a real joy killer
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 February 2013):
 most women do not even orgasm from penetration (less than 30%)
Once you figure out how you best reach orgasm (if you haven't already) you will have to teach him... there is nothing wrong with that.
Personally I find a small penis much better for giving oral sex!
and for me it's not about the length but rather the girth.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 February 2013):
I feel that waiting until marriage is a mistake for reasons like this. If you had had sex with him before hand and hated it then you'd have your answer. If you wait and hate it, well good luck to you because you just promised to be with him forever.
Keep in mind that girth seems to be more important to most women. So as long as it's not skinny it should be able to satisfy you. And, as pointed out there are more ways than one to be satisfied.
You should try kegal exercises as well. It will help tighten your vagina for your husband and your pleasure.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 February 2013):
 Your G spot if 2 inches inside the vagina. He only has to be able to last long and find ways to hit it. If his penis can't satisfy you his fingers and tongue can. You say you are not going to regret waiting so you have to keep your word. It takes two to work out a good sex life. I've read somewhere that vagina tightness has to do with hormonal balance. I don't how scientific that is. If you find it hard to even insert tampons in then you are tight enough for a small penis. I believe you wait for religious and/or security reasons. Let him have the security that you won't leave him for a bigger penis also. I have found that in porn, men with short penises are able to do more, being passionate than longer ones because they don't have to be too careful about hurting the actresses. Men with shorter penises are also more eager to please whereas the bigger ones feel too proud, expecting the women to worship them. I do feel that the pros outweigh the cons with a smaller guy. Size does matter a little but what people tend to overlook is the ability to last long.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 February 2013):
 Penises have almost zero bearing on your ability to orgasm, the vast majority of women can't orgasm from penetration. Most either orgasm from oral sex, fingers (on the outside), or a vibrator. The best possible way for you to be satisfied later on is to masturbate now to figure out what you like, and then have him do it.
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