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writes:Hi, I am separated of my husband. He asked me for space-time and I accepted it. That has been for 2 months and we never talk each other since he left the house.But I don't understand why he talks with my family?? My family live overseas and he call them often, send emails with pics..etc etc.They know what is going on between us and they don't ask about it, but I am wandering why does he call them?I thought when he asked me for space-time, he will be gone for everything about me included my family, but he keeps the comunication with them...and that makes me soo sad because I have a mix of feelings.Is that a signal that he still cares about me? or Am I wrong??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers....2 months ago he sent me a email and he saids "i don't want any contact with you, no phone calls, no emails, no skype..we both need this time to reflect what happened and avoid any hope between us.." after that we didn't talk..
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (10 February 2011):
Yes, he still cares for u,,,, the logic is that if he didn't love u or cared for u he would never contacted ur family and when he is doing so, then means he has feeling for u and he is he is missing u being away from u....one thing i would advice, dont cheat him during this time...i mean don;t contact with someone else....and dont go to him, give him the chance to come u back....but but but if the reason of separtion is u then instead of him coming to u, then u should definately go and ask him to forgive u....i will restate ur questioin again that yes he still wants u back and missies u as his actions speak like that.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (10 February 2011):
 He might potentially be doing this to keep upto date on your life? Honestly, you need to tell your family not to accept his calls any longer. Its not healthy for you and if he truly wanted space and time, he should not be in contact with your family.Two months not talking is a VERY long time when someone wants space-time. One or two weeks maximum would be normal, this has just crossed many boundaries. What is he doing in his spare time - is he seeing other people while you are in the background on hold?Honestly, two months is enough. Your family needs to stop talking to him and instead he needs to talk to you now. Its time to make some decisions, either move on with your own lives and separate/ divorce or try counseling/living together again.He seems to be taking advantage of the situation - getting the comfort of your family while living his single life. Time to put your foot down and demand a resolution/end to this situation.
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reader, RayBones +, writes (10 February 2011):
 When I've had break ups they seemed to go one of two ways:
either the flames would be fanned just incase there is something there. I would never burn a bridge with people unless I was sur eI was never going back.
the other way of course is to completely cut that person from my life. I'd avoid all the family friends and people just because I wanted to get that person out of my life.
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