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anonymous
writes:ok i worked with a guy for 18 months during which time i became very close to him and he said he loved working with me. during this time he was having bad problems at home and i supported him throgh some serious stuff. he says he values me a lot. anyway recently hes moved to a new department because of a manager issue and im gutted. he says its not the same not working with me and ive found myself getting jeleous which sounds crazy because hes working with new people. ive also found hes distanced himself a little and doesnt call as much and has become very confident. i dont kjnow why i feel like this. he said he wouldnt be where he was if t wasnt for me but why do i fell so insecure pleeeeese help !
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Because it does not sound like you only have friendly feelings for him, it sounds like you have romantic feelings.
If he were just a friend, I don't think you'd feel this way.
Because, if it were a rock-solid, for-life kind of friendship, the present distance would not faze you at all, you'd know that no new job or new friends or new life can change the substance of your mutual feelings. And if instead it was one of those typical , transitional " office " friendships, - you would not care ; it would be an " I see you when I see you " kind of thing and you would not particularly care about losing him or not.
Does he know you have feelings for him ? Is he single and available ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): You probably feel that way because you want him for more than friendship. Maybe you should just tell him so you can take things to the next level or at least find out where you stand with him.
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