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writes: I'm a 24 year old female and I've been with my boyfriend who's 25 for 6 weeks now. I really feel like we're at the stage where we are about to have sex for the first time. I really do want this to happen but at the same time I'm scared. I have slept with two other guys in the past but both were bad experiences. The last time I slept with anyone was about 4 years ago and I'm just worried about what he'll think of me. What if I do something wrong? And I'm also worried about him seeing me undressed as I am overweight at the moment, not that he's bothered by that. I would really appreciate any advice from anybody.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
NEVER feel pressured to have sex with someone, just to gain their approval or be afraid of losing them.When you REALLY want someone...it comes naturally.You will know when the time is right...with the right guy.You will desire him SO INTENSELY...nothing will stop you!He will make you feel sexy & beautiful..inhibitions melt.You go girl !
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reader, Caribgal +, writes (9 June 2005):
You need to love yourself. So what if you have some rolls. You met him that way so he must like women with a little meat on their bones. Not every man wants a slim woman. Most men like a lil cushion for the pushin you know what I mean. Get sexy girl and learn some new styles showcasing your newfound confidence in your beauty. Where I am from men like thick sexy women. Your thickness ain't sexy if you ain't confident.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (8 June 2005):
 Talk to him about your feelings on sex. You can tell him what's make you comfortable and what doesn't. That way you won't have an awkward moment when you're in the sheets. And talking about what you want could be really sexy and lead up to the act of sex itself. So what could be better? About your feelings of your body, if you can't relax, try getting one or two nightlights for your bedroom. Plug them in away from the bed. Put on sexy cute boyshorts and a nightie top. Foreplay in these clothes and let him undress you under the sheets that way you'll be comfortable. Remember to tell him how to please you. Men LOVE that. Take care, your big sis.
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reader, clare_bear +, writes (3 June 2005):
talk to him. If he's a decent guy he will talk you through it and make you feel comfrtable. Don't be afraid of asking him to guide you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): Talk to him first, but you can't go wrong in bed!
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reader, purple_angel +, writes (3 June 2005):
I really wouldnt worry about it. I am convinced that having sex is like riding a bike, you never forget how to do it. Yes OK, it may be a bit awkward at first, but once you overcome you nerves and fears thing will be fine. I think that if you have any concerns about it, you should talk to you partner, it's always better to get things out in the open. He seems like a great guy, you never know he may have some nerves to get over as well. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2005): If you are comfortable enough with your bf to entertain the idea of entering a sexual relationship with him, then you should be comfortable enough to tell him of your apprehension and fears. If he cares about you, he will give you the confidence you are lacking. The intimate conversation and honesty should also strengthen the friendship between the two of you. If you are not ready, and you are uncomfortable with a sexual relationship at this time then you should put it off for another day. Do not do things because he expects it or pressures you to. Do not do it if he knows you are apprehensive. You would be compromising yourself for him. Putting his needs ahead of your own. He will not respect you or consider what is important to you. You will have shown him his needs are more important than yours. I wish I would have realized this 15 years ago. Not only pertaining to our first sexual encounter. But our whole relationship up to present day. Sexual, companionship, raising children, home and garden, entertainment, financial, friendships, shopping, recreation, communication, working, Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc It is nice and neccessary to give and give and meet eachothers needs, but not sacrificing your own self in the process.
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