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writes:I've been going out with the sweetest guy anyone can get and we are starting to think about sleeping together. He isn't pressuring me into doing anything i don't want to because we made a decision on it together and we arranged a date. The thing is he has never slept with anyone and nor have I and we are not really sure what to do. I can't ask my parents because they would go crazy and his would as well . I was just wondering what exactly goes where. Please Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (26 October 2010):
Hi there,
You are in the UK right?. Didnt you have any sex education lessons at school?
Ch4 recently showed some excellant Sex Ed programmes. Chk this out:-
http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-sex-education-show/4od
Hope it helps
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reader, marymomnwife  +, writes (25 October 2010):
save the scheduling sex times for when ur the parents of more than one screaming kid and never have time for spontanious anything, but even then its called date night;-). dont be in such a hurry to have sex. once u have sex u could feel tied down to this person. do u want to travel or go away to college? if u do then the other one will feel left behind if they dont want to go too. i know teens and u r gonna do what u want anyways so be careful always use a condom and maybe go to public library and look up sex in books. plz weigh all options b4 tho. someguys also have sex then go tell everyone u r a slut and if u get pregnant u r an easy slut. get on birthcontrol he needs 2 wear a condom. u can get pregnant under water, during ur first time, standing up, sitting down, most days of the month and well at any time so plz b careful.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Have you 2 been hugging? Kissing? These are things that come first in a relationship. Sex is just an evolution of those things that must come first. The closer you two get to each other physically and emotionally will make "how sex works" clearer.
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 If you're still wondering what goes where, you've got a lot of reading to do and some health classes to attend before you can consider yourself ready for this. You can't rely on random users from this site to give you everything you need to know. There is nothing wrong with waiting, in fact at 16-17 years old it is advisable. If both your and his parents would "go crazy" over this, perhaps you should listen to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): You arranged a date to have sex? Planning sex is incredibly immature and a clear sign that neither of you are ready or understand what you are doing. When you are in love, sex comes naturally to you and isn't something that you schedule on a calendar. It's fine that you are discussing it, but scheduling it like an appointment isn't the way to lose your virginity.
I know this doesn't really answer your question about what goes where, but honestly, if you don't know how sex works, you shouldn't be having it.
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