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writes:I am 17 years old and recently got dumped by my boyfriend of 15 months, who's 24 (yes, I know, you’re probably thinking ewww, but that’s not the problem here) The problem is that when I say recently I actually mean about 3/4 weeks ago :( and I'm still feeling so naff about it, so much so that I am seriously thinking about contacting him to apologise and suggest we get back together.Now this might sound like it’s not a big deal, but the reason he dumped me was really petty and before that “last dumpage” he had dumped me countless number of times before. The reasons, like I said, are really petty, like he got so jealous of me talking to other guys to the point where he would try to ban me from talking to them. Another reason is the fact that he hated me going out with my friends and drinking and going to parties, which is what I am bound to do at 17 right? But when he was my age he was a bit of a loser and never got to go partying, because he was never invited, so most of his annoyance is because he’s jealous, but I miss him loads and I dont know if it’s because I’m craving the physical attention - which I’ll admit that I am - or because I dont think that anyone will be able to love me as he did :( but the last words were “ARGH, I HATE YOU” and him telling me that I never cared about him.I never understood how he could possibly think that I didn’t (even my friends couldn’t, but then I guess they’re bias) but I think it’s because my parents hated me seeing him and so I told them I was done seeing him... when infact we carried on sneaking around for about 10 more months. He hated this because he thought I wanted to hide him, but it’s not true, I wanted to keep both of them happy :( what went wrong???Anyway, I know that this is really jumbled up and not to the point at all lol, but I’d appreciate your help and advice, cos all I get from my friends is them cussing him and telling me I’m better off without him etc. and I need to know some strangers’ thoughts on this :) thankyou x
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reader, Blod +, writes (11 November 2010):
 First off, don't worry about feeling this way. 15 months is a long time so naturally you're not going to get over him in a matter of weeks.
As for contacting him again, I agree with your friends. The love might be there but your relationship sounds like it just wasn't working. Someone can love you but there's a fine line between loving someone and becoming possessive and jealous. Doesn't the fact that you told him you hated him tell you something? It seems that there were a lot of issues causing problems in your relationship so ending it was probably best. You're still raw at the moment so it's not the best time to consider going back to him. It may be tempting but you need to wait until you can think clearly about it to work out what's best for you. Good luck.
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reader, jennnna  +, writes (10 November 2010):
personally, i think at 17 that you should be out partying and having fun because you are only in high school for so long and you don't want to miss out on all of the parties and fun. also, you have plenty of time to meet other guys who don't cause so much drama and stress in your life.
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