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writes:Me and my boyfriend are ready for sex.We've talked about different methods of contraception and are thinking about a condom since they're easy to get.I'm just wondering though if intercourse feels better without one-especially semen pouring into my vagina.Any recommendations?
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reader, ricbax +, writes (18 May 2008):
Sex without a condom always feels better for a man. I've had mixed feedback from women as to whether it's better with or without. Most women I've been with seem to prefer the ribbed and studded condoms, when we use them.
You should always use a condom with a new partner in any case, until you're sure you can trust him not to give you any diseases. Do you know your boyfriend's sexual history, has he been with anyone before? If in doubt ALWAYS use a condom.
Now buying condoms - if neither of you have any experience with condoms, you should try different types to see which ones fit and feel best. There are different widths and you don't want one which is too tight or too loose on your boyfriend's penis. (Too tight means it could tear or become uncomfortable, too loose means it could slip off!) They're also made in different shapes and thicknesses and of course you can get the studded and ribbed types too, which might feel better for you. Mates and I think Durex do variety packs with 2 or 3 of each type of condom. My own personal favourites are Mates Natural (best feel for me) and Mates Intensity (best feel for her) but you'll just have to try them and see which you like best.
If you decide to stop using condoms you must use another method of contraception i.e. the pill. The pill is a good idea anyway as condoms sometimes break or slip off, especially if you're inexperienced at using them or use one that isn't a good fit.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Condoms!
Easy to get, and free from the family planning clinics.
The pill is one thing, but it doesn't prevent STD's. Plus you could forget to take it, antibiotics, being sick...
Different forms of contraception at different points in your life.
Leave the pill, injection, or IUD/IUS for the guy you will marry.
If there is a problem, don't forget the morning after pill.
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female
reader, natasia +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Intercourse definitely feels better the way nature intended - ie, no condom, no nothing. However, you need contraception, so these are my thoughts:
condom - quick, easy to get and use, but a barrier between you and him, and not always reliable
coil, etc - horrible - don't go letting them put something like that inside you!!!
injection - lasts a long time and can kill your fertility forever!
pill - best choice I think - v reliable and you get to have sex naturally with no worries, as the pill means you don't ovulate, so there's no egg to fertilise, so those sperm can swim where they like, but the poor mites won't get what they're after, bless them
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female
reader, duskyrowe +, writes (16 May 2008):
 In my opinion I find the IUD coil very effective, you don't have to remember to keep taking the pill and you do not put on weight. The only thing it does is it makes your periods a little heavier and also it takes a few months to regulate them too.
The coil can remain there for five years or when you are ready to have children. Condoms can be great too, because they come in all forms like ribbed, flavoured etc.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 If you aren't prepared to have children yet, you need to use TWO forms of birth control, not just one. You should ALWAYS use a condom, right up until you get married. The barrier method is what is going to keep safe from disease and protect your future fertility. You should also use a more effective method as well, like the pill, just in case the condom leaks or breaks. Why not just think of that whole bareback idea as something to save for when you are ready to make a baby - because that IS the end result of sperm flowing into your va-j-j. The only alternative after the flowing sperm method would be the morning after pill, which makes you sick as a dog, an abortion, which is not pleasant, or 9 months of pregnancy and a child to raise for 18 years. I think the No Glove, No Love method is much, much easier and a better return on your investment. 20 minutes of whoopee = 18 years of child rearing... Not a great trade-off if your not in the market for one of those! Take good care of yourself with the decisions that YOU make for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Kay Kay has gret advice for you. I will even go further and say---abstain from sex completely. But we know you likely won't because sex is simply a fun thing to do for you and this bf, isn't it? I need to impress upon you, how maturity, a realistic attitude and perspective will make you more happy, in the long run, than passion does. So, definitely use a condom as well as birth control pills. Believe me, the feeling of 'semen pouring into your vagina' will be a short lived thrill compared to the hard work, finances and efforts of raising a child for the next 20 years, hun.
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Actually, a lubricated condom for your first time could help things along for you -- there's less friction so it might be less first-time painful. And it certainly helps you feel better since there's no worry about getting pregnant or STDs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): I just use birth control pills, that way I can still feel my partner and not the plastic covering my partner...
However I know both of our sexual histories, and we've both been checked out.
I would not recommend this course of action for the first time. I would instead agree with your previous statement and go for a condom usage.
If you're together for long enough, then you can always try different methods later. Using condoms the first few times doesn't mean it will always be like that.
And I know that some gals even LIKE the feeling of the condom far better than the feel of their partner.
Just don't rush into anything you may regret, like not using anything at all.
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reader, les +, writes (16 May 2008):
Condoms are the best to use. They're easy to get and there's no hassle around them.
You should make sure to still be careful though. My boyfriend right now for wahtever reason cant keep them on. They come off like 70% of the time. I had to go on the pill b/c that the only way we could have sex on a regular basis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): well if you feel ready, then go for it and enjoy it, as there is nothing worse then doing it if youre not sure or having any regrets, as you can only lose your virginity once. but make sure you do use a condom. ive used condoms my whole sex life without any other form of contraception and they've been fine, thats if you use them properly!! but if you are a bit worried, as mistakes can happen, then its best to start the pill ASWELL. hope thats helped
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reader, redsox07 +, writes (16 May 2008):
If youre not on the pill, which you should be for back up, you HAVE got to use a condom.
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