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writes:Hello.I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. Just recently I was supposed to go to an interview for a retail department store, but I cancelled it because I was too lazy.. :Anyways my boyfriend's mom asked me how it went and instead of telling her the truth, I just said they preferred someone that had a car and license (which I don't have yet because I haven't taken my test.) even though I never went to the inMy boyfriend overheard this (he knows that I was lazy) and got very mad at me for lying to his mom about the interview. I told him that I would rather her think I didn't meet the qualifications instead of being a lazy person.I told her that I would reapply once I get my license though, which is the truth. Was my lie such a big deal? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 June 2012):
 IF you will lie to her you will lie to him or anyone else.
People either lie or they don't.
So you are lazy and a liar. it's a big deal and I understand why he's upset.
you are young enough to figure out how to NOT be lazy and to not be a liar... LEARN from these mistakes, get your life together NOW do not wait till you are older and have regrets.
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reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 Its a big deal because you lied.
Lying is baaaad.
When a person lies, they've done a reaaally bad thing.
If you get caught lying, people get maaaad.
Mad people are sad people.
Really though, it's a relatively simple concept. Deception is evidence of untrustworthy worthy character. Its synonymous in fact.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (31 May 2012):
 I would give you a "pass" for the SPECIFIC lie that you told (to your B/F's Mom, about THAT interview).... but would NOT give you a pass for:
1. Being so cavalier about lying, in-general, and,
2. Being lazy... knowing and admitting it... AND using LIES to avoid having to face your laziness.....
Good luck. I hope you wake up to the demands of the adult world, soon....
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 yes its a big deal,
Bigger deal is why are you so happy being lazy? Do you currently work? Jobs all over the globe are scarce at the moment and to be too lazy to go for an interview tells me that you maynot be the type of person that she would want dating her son.
I hire people and fire people in my job, someone who cancelled an interview wiht me would never get a second chance.
Time to refelct on your own self.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2012): Yes it was a big deal that you lied to your boyfriend's mother about a job interview. You are a self confessed liar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2012): "Was it such a big deal that I lied to my b/f's mom about a job interview?"Yes, it proves that you are untrustworth, but it proves beyond doubt that you will do anything to cover your *ss at others' expense. You don't give a rat's behind that you've put your boyfriend in a difficult position of jeopardizing his mother's trust in him, and you're still offering lame excuses, rationalizations and justifications for your abhorrent behavior. "I told him that I would rather her think I didn't meet the qualifications instead of being a lazy person."He'd probably rather think that you're not an irresponsible, but now he knows otherwise.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 I would be pissed that your excuse is because you were too lazy and you are trying to cover it up. It just shows your character to be something that he probably doesn't agree with. The last thing he wants is to be dating someone who just doesn't care to get a job.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (31 May 2012):
 Why is telling lies such a big deal? Because what kind of person thinks its ok to just lie to people because they are so lazy they cant be arsed to go somewhere?
Have think about it.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (31 May 2012):
Since you seem to freely admit and accept you're lazy, why lie to the mother about it to make you come across as different than you really are? It implies that deep down you do feel ashamed about not going and I think that's why your bf got mad.
If you felt it was bad enough to lie about, you should have gone to the job interview. If you think there's nothing wrong with throwing away a job opportunity because you were lazy, then tell her exactly that, not some lie that places the blame away from you.
As for reapplying: no self respecting company hires someone who didn't bother showing up for a job interview the first time. It tells them something about your work ethic.
If you have the same attitude when it comes to your driver's license I suspect it will take quite a long while before you get that as well. Can you afford to wait that long to apply for a job again?
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