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writes: Last December, I started this job and almost immediately developed a crush on a coworker. I thought the feeling was reciprocated. The extent of our relationship was walking home together. A month goes by, and...nothing. I figured he hasn't asked me out because he's not interested and/or he has a gf. Anyway, a few months into our "relatioship," he told me him and his friends were gonna visit my hometown and he was all, "We're leaving the women behind. Do you know any places where we can pick women up?" I was speechless. The next day, I asked him, "You have a gf and you wanna slut around NY?" And he said, "What she doesn't know can't hurt her.Are you still gonna help us out?" I naively and stupidly thought that he couldn't have a gf and ask me about pick-up joints. So our friendship continues, and when asked about his weekend he'd say, "I partied." Since he never mentioned a gf, I wasn't shat's up. At that pt., 2 months had gone by since the "slut" event. We were talking abt our wknds, and I told him how I'd watched my 5 fave movies. He's all, "Let me guess. Pride and Prejudice and Bridget Jones's Diary." I said, 2 right." He's all, Wow. I've only known you 7 months. What's your fave tv show? Sex and the City?" I said, " Yes. It's off the air." He said, "I know," and I replied, "How'd you know?" He said, "Cuz you're a girl and from the city." I said, "How'd you know it's off the air?" And he said. And I blush just thinking about it. "my girl" cough "friend told me." The next day I decided to clarify things. I said, "I'm confused. Do you have a girlfriend or not?" And he said, "What are you confused about?" And I replied, "Well you mention a gf and then you talk about picking up girls and strip clubs." He says nothing. "So do you have a gf or not?" And he smiles and says, "Yes." So I died of humiliation. I can't figure out if I imagined if he liked me or was I being deliberately obtuse. Or was he kinda on purpose not mentioning her? Was I as stupid as I think? God.
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (24 May 2005):
Obviously he is not the kinda guy you thought he was, and knowing that he is picking up other women when he is out of town and discussing it with his co- workers... Would you want to be his girlfriend? Consider yourself lucky and move on!!!
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (23 May 2005):
And you liked that piece of shit? He wouldve only cheated on you...
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (22 May 2005):
Don't knock yourself, that wasn't stupid. You liked him, and perceived him as being better than he was. Whenever I like anyone, I always see what I want to see in who I like. I try not to see anything bad so I can enjoy myself more around the person. This even goes for my brother. My gf and friends can't stand the guy, but I choose not to see he has a very annoying and aggravating side because he's my brother. This perception gets much more distorted for girls I've chased after. It's natural, don't feel bad.
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