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writes:Hi. I met a Brazilian guy last wed .we met online and I knew before we met we would have a great time and great chemistry .well I was right .we had a great time chatting about all sorts of things .I am aware that Brazilian men are very forward but was ok with his touching me because I was attracted to him .he was very full on.he asked me to go back to his place ! I declined .he took me to the station and we kissed goodbye .he text me asking if I got home ok.I haven't heard from since .do I call him or wait ? Was he after just sex ? Should I move on ? I really felt a connection and thought we got on so well .I'm disappointed but maybe I should wait until he contacts me if at all .
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys .My gut feelings have been confirmed by your comments .thank goodness I didn't get carried away in the Passion as I.would be feeling a lot worse now .
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 he was more than likely after sex, and he moved on to his next target. you did well not giving in to him. he did not get what he is after so he will move on to another woman that will give in.
i would suggest you to move on , if he would have got what he wanted he we have moved on after he got tired of you. not good relationship material .
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (5 August 2012):
 I agree with the other posts here. I would assume anyone I met online was out for sex because most of them are. Brazillian men may be very forward, but most decent men I know (from any culture) who are interested in a real relationship do not begin by touching women and being forward, they begin by being gentlemen. That way women don't get the wrong impression of them. If this guy wanted a relationship, he would have respected your personal space and would have called back by now to ask if he could see you again. My personal opinion is that he won't call back because he'll just find someone online who will put out on the first date.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 August 2012):
 It does sound like he just wanted sex and when he didn't get it, he stopped the contact, but I could be wrong.
I think it's ALWAYS sensible to wait with the sex til you have an idea of whom you are dating/seeing.
So, honey maybe it wasn't a big loss.
Sometimes you have to kiss a few very horny frogs.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 August 2012):
 It's fair to say he was just after sex.
People use the internet to meet unsuspecting people for this purpose all the time.
He asked you back to his on the first meet, you said no, he checked you got home ok and then cut contact. He is probably busy making other hook ups with other women until one says 'YES I will come back to your place'...then he will score and then he will move on to the next.
Really you need to forget all the charm and connection stuff. Men are well versed in what to say to get a woman into bed...there is no mystery.
Don't contact him or else you will just be giving him a second opportunity to turn on the charm again and get you into bed. He will see it as a double dip...you will see it that he really must like you to want to meet again...either way you will have sex and won't hear from him again or worse...end up as a convienient booty call/FWB so he can use you and confuse you whenever he wants whilst perpetuating the myth that he wants a relationship (dodgy ground and heartbreak city)
If all this sounds a little harsh or cynical, go ahead...call him, hook up...come back and tell me I am wrong :-)
There is so much of this going on, it's amazing that women are still falling for it.
Go easy!!!
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 from a mans point of view it sounds as though you might put out on the next date so he will probably call you. don't do anything till the date after as if you do you might not see him again.
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