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writes:I would just like to know what parents out there or any one for that matter thinks about the fact that in our society we protect our children from movies with inappropriate sexual content with NC-17 ratings, but we hand them and iPhone as young as age 10 and let them browse the entire Internet where the porn industry has targeted iPhone with free streaming 20 min to 30 min free hard core porn clips.Does anyone else see a problem with this?How has porn affected your life with your young kids?How have you handled the topic?Do you think porn watching is appropriate for a 12, 13, 14 year old girl or boy?Keep your answers succinct and your opinion only, don't argue with other posters, doesn't matter what they have to say, say what your feelings and thoughts are about this and keep it at that.This is a survey question only.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (17 October 2010):
Here's what I think is the ideal situation and how I plan on raising my kids when I have kids:
Children and young teens do not need to have privacy when it comes to electronics. Whatever device your child has should have software that lets you see every single thing they do with it. The child should be aware that you have this capability. Then, nothing should be off-limits. If a child has reached the age where he is curious about what a naked body looks like or what human sexual function looks like, it doesn't harm them to become aware of that. A child should never be made to feel like his curiosity is wrong or that sex or nudity are shameful or harmful. The child should be encouraged to speak with his parents about anything he sees on the Internet. The parents should engage the child in discussions about the differences between actual sex and the various portrayals of sex in the media.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Studies have alos revealed that early exposure to pornaeds to sexual addiction (for some, not all). What can we do? Stop supporting the industry....don't but their products, don't use the iphone, buy a simpler phone, if enough people used their money wisely, there would be less sex to sell.....it's simply a supply and demand situation..... In my house, I demanded that products were safe to use for my children, this included not having cable tv..... Guess what, none of us suffered from my choices and my kids played a lot og games together, both inside and outside.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 I wholeheartedly disagree with the first poster who writes as though we are helpless and it is necessary to just sit by as we watch future generations pass into a world where sex is more putrescent than it was ever meant to be. That is not true.
Why does a man think less of a woman just because he sees one other woman in a porn video? Why do some Christians despise homosexuals? Why do racists so willingly hate other races? You might think that in a way I am blowing this out of proportion but no, I am not. There is but one cause for it all and that is ignorance. Some parents are far too afraid to teach their children about sex, I have friends who, surprisingly enough, did not fully understand it until they were 16 years old! I was appalled! Parents should be teaching their children about sex the moment they become curious about why they see so many women dancing aimlessly around a single man on television in a music video or some such things. I was taught about it at a very young age. My mother told me and she made it clear NEVER to disrespect ANYONE. She always told me that if I met a woman who I loved, I should treat her with respect and cherish her. Even though I already knew that, she never ceased to get her point across and that helped me grow, it means no matter how many times I continued to see a woman being a 'whore' on television, I knew never to see women as sexual objects. In fact, there are so many women who I respect because of that fact. For example, through a friend I was led to a blog of a porn star (I will not reveal her name) but on this particular blog was some of the most poetic entries I had ever seen. It was then I realized, even if a woman is porn star, that is not her life. And I shudder when I think back and realize how long it took me to see that. But even when I was 11-13 years old, I never saw women as purely sexual. Even as I went through my adolescence, I never saw them as purely sexual beings because I had seen things that were so much deeper.
People see sex when they want to. They seek it and find it everywhere. What I sought in my adolescence was something deeper and though I never found it, I at least appreciate that I never fell to any lustful desires I might have had.
Because I was taught about it and my mother enforced it. It is an awkward subject for some but it MUST be done. We are NEVER helpless, as long as there is a teacher there will be a pupil, so long as there is ignorance there will always be suffering and the ignorance the youth have about sex is causing others to suffer. They can watch whatever they want, just ensure that when they do it, they know what it is they are watching, they see the meaning or meaninglessness or even the deeper cause and effect, whatever there is to it. It just needs to be taught so that if a boy so much as thinks of a woman in harmful and sadistic ways (i.e. rape) then he will vomit when he realized what is lurking in his mind and he will strive to get rid of those thoughts and never raise his hand in anger against a woman.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): It is perfectly normal for males to start watching porn at least by 12.
Whether it screws them up is debateable. But to be honest, I'd rather they watch porn then to treat sex as some sort of taboo to be kept hidden.
So what if today we can differentiate between sex and love-making. They are two seperate things. One is shrouded and enhanced by emotions, and the other is simply physical.
What kids today are not being taught anymore is how to healthily handle these things. No ethics.
They aren't taught that sex is something that should be payed the utmost respect. That it is nothing to be ashamed of, but something that is best enjoyed out of love, rather than simple desire.
And if you are letting a 9 year old have their own phone, you clearly aren't the poster-child for great parenting. In my opinion, a kid is old enough for a phone when they are old enough to get a job that pays for it on their own.
I repeat. The problem today is parents are not teaching their kids how to use the information they get wisely. It's no good knowing HOW to have sex if you don't know how use that respectfully.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Children that young shouldn't have an iPhone in the first place, in my opinion. Obviously they can't be shielded all the time from anything explicit, but part of the problem definitely falls on the idiocy of parents giving their 10 or 12 year old an iPhone or something similar. When I was 12 I was given a cell phone out of necessity, and only had enough credit for emergency calls should I ever need to use it for that reason. Most children are now given a cell phone simply because they want it.
One of the worst things a parent can do is not only give their child a phone with a camera, but also one with a browser. It's the same as buying them a webcam, they have no real need for it at that age. This should be common sense, but it's not.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Porn as it is nowadays is absolutely terrible for kids. A bunch of new studies just came out about this topic, and it's the focus of what I've been studying. The problem is that there aren't many studies on the topic because of the ethical problems of exposing minors to potentially dangerous substances.A group of Dutch researchers have been coming out with a series on the topic, working entirely with teens aged 13-17 or 18 in some studies. One study showed that the more teens viewed pornography, the more likely they were to have what they called a "recreational" attitude towards sex. They were also much more likely to agree that sex was and could only be a purely physical function, like eating or drinking. In a separate study, they found that the more teens watched pornography, the more likely they were to think that you don't need to have any affection for someone to have sex with them. And lastly, they found that when teens watched internet pornography, they were much more likely to think of women as sex toys/sex objects and less as human beings. This was only true when they viewed videos online and not when they viewed still pictures.This is a quote from the book The Price We Pay (I don't feel like retyping the whole thing), “Forty-three percent of boys and 16 percent of girls think it is okay or are not sure if it is okay for a boy to hold down a girl and force her to have sex if she sexually excites him.” These were all teens, over 90% of whom said they viewed pornography.Also, Goldstein Kant and Harmon did a study of incarcerated rapists and found that incarcerated rapists were 15 times more likely to have early (before age 10) exposure to hard core pornography.The BBC recently did a piece about adolescents and pornography, where they talked about how terribly it's affecting teens. That now 14 year old girls are having sex, being pressured into things they don't want to do like anal sex, and being pressured by boyfriends and friends to get Brazilian bikini waxes at a very young age. They interviewed several psychologists who commented that more and more they're seeing girls who literally remove themselves emotionally and mentally from sex so they can perform everything they're asked to do. And that they're seeing that basically nowadays people view sex as something a girl performs on a guy. That there's a new regression of girls not even knowing how to pleasure themselves, and not even knowing that they should enjoy sex. Not to mention kids making pornography of each other and spreading it around and posting it on the internet.It's very bad for developing sexualities, much worse than many want to admit. I'm not a big fan of censorship, but something really needs to be done to make this a lot less accessible to kids, especially with how violent it is getting. I think not giving kids iphones, putting software on your computer and keeping it in a public area are places to start, to at least make it a lot less accessible. We also need parents to start talking to their kids more about sex and make it a lot less "dirty" and taboo. That's where the problems really start.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Children in my country can't even touch an iphone 'cause it costs way more than their parents earn in a month. Only a few people has them.
And this is the proof that one can survive without an iphone, especially kids. Give them a bike or a football, they can't watch porn with that!
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (16 October 2010):
OhGetReal is verified as being by the original poster of the question Um, I own an iPhone and it most certainly is capable of downloading porn videos from the sites like pornhub, these porn sites target iPhones and have videos supported by what ever software is on the iPhone, so you're wrong about that. There are supposedly apps available for download onto the iPhone to limit sites, but most kids are tech savvy enough to get around browser related blocks, they also know how to "jailbreak" their iPhones so they can have multiple accounts and download multiple apps from iPhone....as well as know how to delete their browsing history to hide it from parental eyes...
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (16 October 2010):
The iphone does not support flash, the vast majority of videos on the internet are flash videos so there is no way they can watch porn videos. Porn pictures however are freely available to view. You should look into ways of setting up the software so it cant view those sites. Also, if the child knows you know what webistes they view (is it printed on the bill?) they would be more reluctant to look at it.
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