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writes:Hi, Imma 14 year old girl and I know this is gonna sound stupid but this is something that tears me down nowadays.. Im not just another foolish young child, I have an idea of the world and I understand what people will say, I don't just live in another dream world (-; Im madly in love with someone who is much older than me and he seems to be different than anyone else I have ever met, though there is some qualities about him I dont really like.. But he is an amazing person and it feels like he completes me 'cause he is like the yin to my yang.. There isnt many people like him ):Problem is the age difference is 14 years (twice my age right now). What should I do? - I think that if the relationship gets rough he will get tired of me after some time, after commitments and so.. And I know I am to young but seriouslywhen I listen to him, see him, glances his essence and charisma and his views on well most of things, I feel like he was the missing thing in my life ):when I think about him and think we can never be together my stomach hurts essentially and Ive started to have problems with my stomach.. Never before but every time i think "We can't be together" i instantly cramp and needs to lie down in bed, cry and my stomach hurts.. I haven't even known him for that long, and I don't think he understands me.. I don't know. Im just a little bit stupid and letting my hormones get to me, I guess.. but this is not just another crush, I have had them before, they all felt like the same in the moment, but though I do not know this guy I can't imagine my life without him; Even though it will be worse than what Ive expected, or not. I can't just repress my feelings, what should I do?
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reader, Inbetweener  +, writes (13 August 2011):
Been there, done that. Had sex with a guy who was 32 (I'm 17) and it was a complete waste of time and heartbreak. Don't bother with him - find someone your age :)
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reader, GG96  +, writes (28 July 2011):
You have two options:
1.) Get over him, move on with your life, stop seeing him, and find someone your own age. See new sights, clear your head, and smile even though it may hurt. It will hurt at first, but in the long run you'll be happy.
2.) Spend every day pining for him. Risk him getting married and having kids (he's 28, it'll happen). See him do these things will put you in pain you've never experianced. Wait until you're in your 20s, when the age difference won't be that bad. However, thats at least 6 years of loneliness, pain, chances this man finds somone else. And once you are old enough, will he look at you the same way? Will he love you the way you love him? Can you bear that kind of pain for a slim chance with someone 14 years older than you?
Think carefully. "waiting for him" might sound romantic and possible, but option number 2 is what really happens. I'm 14 too, and honestly if i had to wait 6 years for a guy i couldn't do it. Life is short, do you really want to waste 6 long years of it in pain? Your best bet is to sit down and clear your head. Go for a walk, get away, if you're going on vacation soon thats great. Think realistically about your options and decide. Then get with your best friends and have a night out. Try to get over him. Oh, and if you smile hard enough it makes you happy.
Good luck :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 July 2011):
 I'm betting he's your teacher.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 July 2011):
 Have you actually started a relationship with this man? Does he know about your feelings for him? Is he a teacher or some other adult in your life? How much time do you spend with him?
More information would help here, I cant really advise you unless I know what is actually going on between you and this man.
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