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writes:Just out of interest, I have 2 questions which i'd like answers to;Why do people have sex changes? - I know it isn't exactly common, but why can't a person just accept the gender they are! I thought maybe it's because they have feelings for the same sex but are afraid of being openly gay, so they have a sex change to make them appear straight! Am I wrong?Why are teacher/pupil relationships against the law?- There are many posts on the subject of teachers and pupils, but I don't really understand why it's such an issue!A big thank you to those who reply with their views! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Gender reassignment: You present as 18-21 overage and from the UK. Since you are overage and legally able to consent to sex or medical treatment, you should be able to google your question and find better answers then we could ever provide. Try Wikipedia for a fuller explanation into the difference between homosexuality and Transsexualism. Here's a link to get you started http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transexual
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Teacher relationships... please look at the story that this kind person, A reader, anonymous, has offered us and learn the lesson well....
Another story for you to think about is from innocence lost... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-falling-for-your-teacher-is-never-good.html Read these and learn, then go back to your lessons. Forget about a relationship with your teacher it's not right and is often illegal and abusive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I just registered as I felt I had to comment on the second question. I had a pupil/teacher relationship and it affected my life so dramatically. When I was 14 my teacher began to flirt and "groom" me until I finally could no longer resist this figure. I had so much respect for him, he was good looking and he was very charming and intelligent. I thought I loved him, even know I knew it would never work, he came into my life at a time where I very much needed someone.
After a year our relationship came to light. He was not the man I thought I knew but rather someone much older, 59, he had lied about his age, aswell as having had previous relationships with other girls. The police became involved and before anything could happen.
He killed himself.
Even when the police were telling me about the real him I wouldn't believe it as I has so much loyalty to him and he had so much control that had he wanted to take me with him, I would have followed.
No support was given as this subject although common, is still taboo and I was treated very much as the wrongdoer despite, as much as i hate the term, being the "victim",
Teacher/pupil relationships are wrong because they are dangerous and unfair. An adult as more experience and knowledge than young person can ever have. A teacher however as a position of authority and respect which makes it even easier to attract and secure young people.
I would like to say to anyone who knows of a friend or is even in the same position to really be strong and try to think about the situation. Tell someone... before it is too late.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 People who are transgendered don't necessarily like people of the same sex, but many are gay. The main reason they want to become the sex that they are not is that, on the INSIDE, they feel like a man when they are a woman, and of course, the opposite is true as well. Most people have grown up recognizing their sexual identity from an extremely young age, so imagine if you always were a girl in your own mind, but having a male body! It is a condition recognized by professional therapists and people wishing to become the opposite gender are asked to follow routine hormone therapy and have a waiting period before they undergo surgery.
Most people have a crush on a teacher while growing up. There are a lot of reasons, hormones for one, an adult that relates to you, proximity and the attractiveness of an authority figure. The age difference and the fact that this person is in a position of authority is what makes it wrong. It is a breach of trust to take advantage of someone who you wield power over, the same as an employer asking to go out with an employee. What makes it worse is when it is not a University teacher, but a High School teacher - because this involves an underage student - and it is illegal. When it is a teacher doing the pursuing, it is tantamount to pedophillia and when it is a young student that is doing the pursuing, it can lead to the loss of the teacher's job and career with possible criminal charges being pressed by angry parents.
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reader, kizzy  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 when a person has their sex changed it is because they didnt feel the way they were supposed to be for instance, a girl maybe as she was growing up did boy-ish things parents really didnt take much notice of that bcuz they thought she will grow out of it at some time.The girl might have felt more differently than what people saw, she acted like a boy did everything like a boy so in her mind she was a boy.When she got older she still felt she was a man so she decides to get her sex changed to make her feel like what she was meant to be. As for the teacher and student situation if you were a mother how would you react to find out that your son or daughter is messing around with their TEACHER!!, that pretty disgusting to me so i am happy that is against the law. If you are at age like 18 i dont really think it should matter if you are messing around with your teacher or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): From what I can gather, people have sex changes because they feel more like the opposite sex than the sex they are already. That's not the same as being gay.
Teacher/pupil relationships are a bad idea because an adult can take advantage of a vulnerable young person who hasn't yet found their way in life and can be too easily influenced. That's my opinion anyway. The teacher is in a position of power and should blur things.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Ok first people that have sex changes are stuck in a diffrent body and they feel more comfatable bein a diffrent sex, it doesnt mean they are affraid of being gay because they sometimes stick with the same parnter, it's just how they feel.
And secondly teacher pupil is because the teacher has to sign a agrement that means he cant get close to pupils in any way, And he is there to make them learn and thats it, it's not rite if a teacher does anything with a pupil it means there not doing there job properly.
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (18 April 2008):
 As for the sex change i think its down to how you feel. As many transexuals will say i had it because even though i had the body of a male i felt very female or vice versa. The teacher pupil thing, well in schools where the pupils range from 4-16 of course at first its against the law because of age. However after that age i dont think its a problem.
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