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writes:Long story short.2 girls, ones the ex, one I just met about a week and a half ago.Me and my ex broke up after 7 mos together a week ago after going downhill for about a month (more took a break, but we’re still single) because I can only see her once a month sometimes.She wants to get back together, and my dad wants me to get back with her. Im not sure if I do. I mean that was our plan but nothing’s really going to change, and im happier being friends.A few days before we broke up, I met another girl who was very into me. I didn’t talk to her until I was officially single. And now I have two potential relationships. One im kinda getting thown into, and the other if I rush it it may not happen. 3 questions:Ive been highly criticized the last week for the first 2 points.Was I wrong for breaking up with her. I mean I honestly love her. But its too hard with the distance between us and us only being 17, I feel we should wait till we are both able to commit to this relationship, instead of getting out and seeing what else could be out there for us.I believe that in high school we should be dating to see what type of person we should be spending our lives with instead of finding who we should spend our life with. Lately in this relationship I just felt trapped. I mistakenly agreed to “I cant live without you” and “without you my life is meaningless” and not realizing the potential consequences. A few weeks before we broke up she told me she’d kill herself if I left her. I couldn’t take it. Am I wrong for this belief?And what’s the best approach for the new girl. Is there anyway to slow down my dad rushing it? If I approach to fast it will ruin it, leaving me with my ex who I may or may not want to be with immediately. I haven’t decided yet but I do know I want to experience other people first.I was honestly thinking just tell her, listen, my dad wants me to get back with my ex but I wanna know what you think. You’re kinda cute and I’d like to know more but if you wanna know more about me you gotta tell me now. Idk tho.Thanks. xnickx :)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 When you cannot decide which one , you would need to take a time out. It maybe a few weeks or months. But one day you will have the answer. Let time be your decider.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 June 2010):
I always find that if you can't choose, neither is right. Certainly it's never really wise to go back to an ex either. But I think you'd do better to stay single at the moment.
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reader, xnickx +, writes (2 June 2010):
xnickx is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks g, thats the way i was leaning just wasnt sure.
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reader, MiscellaneousG +, writes (2 June 2010):
To be honest, I'd have to say that you have to give the new girl a chance. Like you said, you're pushed into your ex. You already know how your ex is and your relationship with her. If you don't go for the new girl, you may not have the chance to in the future. If your ex truly likes you, maybe it'll work if things don't work out for you and the new girl.
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