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anonymous
writes:I'm happily married but have been texting this friend for the last couple of months. The texts have been very intimate and very flirty! We have both established this turns us both on and subsequently are finding that our sex lives with our parnters is fantastically enhanced! We have since met up and although just shared a kiss it has left us both wanting much more!! Part of me wants him so much but i don't want to lose everything i have or hurt anyone! Is it just the idea of sex with another man that is so thrilling or do i follow my desires and go ahead? Both of us love our partners and do not want to leave them its just our desire for each other is growing??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): Don't do this please!!!... I did it (he wasn't married though, I was) and trust me, you think it is just a fling...you are wrong! It's a trap you are going to fall in it and never ever your life will be like today again!
Guess what, you can fall in love with him... fall out of love with your husband... and then not have the courage to leave your marriage, because of your kids, your husband, and family, and friends, and house, etc.. and in the end, you'll end up not being attracted with your husband anymore, and having fear every night when you go to bed that your husband wants to touch you and you hate it... because you are addicted to the other guy (with whom everything seemed to be so perfect...of course, since it is a "forbidden fruit")
Just dont' do it.. for everyone's sake..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): "Happily Married" really?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): "Part of me wants him so much but i don't want to lose everything i have or hurt anyone!" selfish *itch on your part. you are only consumed by lust for this man, so stop lying and saying that you love your hb. you are just a few inches from spreading your legs for this married man and you couldn't give a shit about anyone least of all your hb and kids (if any). darling, you WILL sleep with this man, you WILL get caught, your hb WILL leave you. you WILL be disgraced and yes HIS WIFE will also f*ck him up financially. not to mention your hb. so deliberately mess up and pay the price. anyways i am sure you hb has better alternatives and his will not just stop at mere kissing ( as you are doing right now). be prepared for the shit unfolding. remember you are messing up 2 marriages. this will blow up in your face. you know it, he knows it but is willing to f*ck an easy woman like you. you have no qualms about morality and infidelity. darling, you are not happily married. you are happily f*cking around and the bubble is about to burst. get ready for seperation, and ultimately a divorce. speak to womem that have spread it for other men not their hb's - they end up alone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): just end that friendship cos is just gonna hurt you in the end.speaking from a real life experience
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): I've read loads of replies to similar questions like this recently from people in your position. Many of them speak from first hand experience and if I remember correctly, many of them say the fling is not worth it. I would refer you to them but can't remember the exact dates, maybe tagged as "cheating" or "affairs" or something. Sorry not to be more use but I'm not married and i've never cheated!. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): Your on dangerous ground aren't you? Well I think your gonna regret doing this in the end. It's always fun to be wanted by someone but at what cost? Would it be ok if your husband and his wife were having sex behind your back? I bet not! Once you do this you will be forever changed in your relationship with your husband. Once all the excitement and curiosity is gone with this guy your gonna feel really guilty about it.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Well you either do it and then end up having an affair as great sex is very addictive and it wont only be once your do it ur just want to keep going back for more, if u can live with the lies to your husband but great sex then go for it....BUT if you can't and truely want to be faithful to your husband then you have to say goodbye to the temptation, get rid of him no contact what so ever!
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reader, passionatelynumb  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Would it be okay with you if your loving husband slept with another woman?
I mean he probably really loves you just as much as you love him, if not more, but he really has all of this sexual chemistry with a fantastic looking girl at the office and would really like to go for it.
I mean its only fair right? If you get to sleep with whoever you want, shouldn't that mean he gets to sleep with whoever he wants?
Honestly, why do you want to ruin a good marraige and someone elses for a meaningless lay?
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reader, Dreamlover  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Love be careful with this one, this is lust. To be honest with you its the start of a self distructing desire.
You do not need this, look carefully at your life and see whats missing, the only time people start looking around is when somethign is lacking.
My suggestion is that if you cant stop the control to be with him then end the friendship now before you hurt yourself more than anything else.
Be true to who you are and never forget who you are.
good luck
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