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writes:Hi Cupids.Im really was just wondering what your opinions are, Im twenty and I dont really go out much, because I lost most of my friends because of my girlfriend. Weve been together for five years and really I know I shouldnt have gone back at all but I did. I love her a lot but I feel like Im wasting my life with her, Ive never dated anyone else and Im starting to want to. I just want to experience different things and I feel like Im missing out, because of her I got into drugs i never would have touched, I became someone I wasnt and really its my fault, and it just seems now whenever I get my life on track she has some kind of drama that requires me to put my life on hold. I feel guilty about having these feelings, but at twenty I have barely done anything, I havnt gone out with a friend in three months and before I was never home. I dont want to settle down at twenty!
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reader, Ne'cee +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Youre right. It looks like youve pretty much been settled since you were 15. If she has you doing things that you are not happy with and she is not willing to give it up , then you need to do whats best for you. Remember you cant make anyone happy if youre not. It really sounds like youre done with her anyway. Explore and that will let you know what else is out there and determine if she was what you wanted.
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reader, Drew21 +, writes (23 March 2011):
 I would say it sounds like this girl is bad news and you have to let her go.
I know it's hard. I had a situation similar to this. I had a girl who i changed EVERYTHING i was as a person for...Isolating myself from friends and family, only getting in with HER friends...
Then she turned around and dumped me, and i had nothing. No one to turn to. I was destroyed as a person. It took me a good 2 years to finally claw my way back. I would hate to see this happen to someone else!
Tell her the truth: You don't like who you've become, and you feel like you need to do more and experience more in your life.
Those are valid reasons for ending a relationship!
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reader, ghoku  +, writes (23 March 2011):
i had a girlfriend same age as you and she broke up with me sort of the same reasons like, she thinks she's missing out on something. i cant blame her so I'm trying my best to give her what she wants. giving her space and time to grow on her own but that doesn't mean i dont love her or care for her.
if you want to explore life and i think you should. try to talk to your gf about it and explain to her everything. if she loves you she will understand and give way. its normal to want to explore things at your age.
good luck.
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