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writes:I have been dating a guy (Guy A) for about 8 months and I do think I love him. About 4 months ago I met someone else (Guy B). He is very good to me and I do enjoy spending time with him but feel guilty doing so.Guy A says he is not in a "hurry" having just gotten out of a marriage last fall.Guy B wants to spend every waking moment with me. But I feel it is moving very fast.Guy A has my heart (even though I see him twice a month after work) but I cannot stop thinking about Guy B. Guy B knows about Guy A and is forcing me to make a choice. I don't want to hurt either one of them. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Katzii +, writes (17 May 2011):
You are in love with two guys! this can be rather difficult if thats the case. Give it more time an sooner or later you'll have a clear sign. be patient! ;)
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reader, worried ana +, writes (23 June 2009):
 ok well if u like both u will have to pick the one its hard but u really need to pick and u will have to pick the one u want to spend the rest of ur life with and so i say be strong and pick=)
what do i do i with this guy his name is bill and yea i like him cause he likes me for me and but idk if i want to be with him and there is this other guy that i have bin seeing and his name is dennis and every time we talk he makes me smile and i get butterfly's every time and he tells me he loves me and wants me to move in with him but he wants me to drop bill and bill doesn't now about dennis and i am with bill and wen i see bill there is no spark any more we kiss and have sex but there is nothing and that what i want and so yea can someone help me i so stuck i need help so that i can move on
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reader, rcn +, writes (30 January 2008):
 You need some single time by yourself to pull yourself together. You need to find out more about yourself and really reflect on why it is not a good idea to date 2 guys at the same time. Relationships are not competition. I know it's an ego boost, two guys at once, feel good having two guys attracted at the same time. Now which one are you going to hurt? Your going to hurt one of them, and it's your choice which one. Sometimes our decisions have negative consequences. With poor decisions you can't escape what comes a long with it.
So what you're saying is, you think you love A, guilty of B, but like spending time with B, and you need to make a choice. Well if you take time to choose then you DON'T really love A. So isn't A a bit disappointed that you've been cheating on him with B? You need a swift kick in the rear. This behavior is absolutely malicious. You want to be fair, dump them both.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 have you heard of monogomy?? why did you even get involved with guy b if you were happy and in love with guy a?? in my book that constitutes as cheating. you may have to end up with guy b because after guy a finds out wat you have been doing to him he probably wont want to see you anymore - and rightly so. make a mature decision - the answer is right in front of you, you say you love guy a so should there be any hesitation? to be honest, i would question whether you do love him, because you dont do that to ppl you love. make a choice before you hurt anyone. but i also think you should be honest, lies and mistrust just lead to resentment. stop making excuses and make your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): Make a choice, woman.
You can't be dating two guys at once because like he already has, at least one guy is bound to be really pissed off.
So stop making excuses, choose, and live with whatever the consequences are.
Personally were I one of these guy's I would have kicked you to the curb some time ago... because you clearly don't understand monogamy.
Flynn 24
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 How comes you only see guy A a couple of times a month after work? I would go for guy B from what you have said! If guy B knows about guy A but guy A doesnt know about guy B, why is that? There must be a reason for that. The guy (A) isnt long out a relationship and knows he doesnt want or is ready for anything too full on, but guy B is, and you like him. just seems guy B is more stable and understandably wants to know where he stands. I guess it depends what you want at the end of the day. What kind of relationship?C xxxxx
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Whose live is it anyway? You don't have to make an immediate choice here! I would just continue dating both of them until I was sure. I would refuse to entertain discussing either of them with each other and do as you please until you are certain how YOU feel.
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reader, mayfair +, writes (29 January 2008):
I think you need to think really carefully about who you can see yourself having a future with,if it is Guy A then you will be willing to wait and take things slowly, if it is Guy B then you have to be ready to give up guy A and throw yourself into a fullon relationship with guy b. but you will need to do it before guy A finds out about guy B. I don`t agree with what you are doing by seeing 2 men. But you do have to decide, and without hurting anyone if possible. good luck, you will make the right choice for you.
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