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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2013): "I know she loves me all I'm asking for its an advise of how to bring her back not judgements"
You are asking the impossible.
It's not her hormones that are keeping he away, it's her good judgment. She'd be a fool to put her unborn child at any further risk of violence at the hands of an abusive boyfriend.
Sorry, but you blew it. If you abused her once, then she knows you're capable of abusing her again. Nothing you can do or say can undo what you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2013): You get physical with her and when she doesn't want you back you say it's all her hormones..umm are you real? Respect her decision and leave her alone you cannot make someone want to be with you and she obviously doesn't want you! She's thinking of her and her baby if your violent
This isn't me judging this is me advising you to leave her alone its very abusive behaviour not only hitting her but trying to make her take you back when she doesn't want you, she may love you but that's not enough if your violent, she's not going to risk her and her baby's life.
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reader, kako  +, writes (1 May 2013):
kako is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGuys I love this woman...maybe its her hormones coz I know she loves me all I'm asking for its an advise of how to bring her back not judgements
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reader, maisy1  +, writes (1 May 2013):
"I think hormones are killing her"...excuse me?? This has fuck all to do with her hormones and everything to do with the fact that YOU abused her.Was she pregnant when you abused her physically?? If so you should be ashamed of yourself. In fact you should be ashamed even if she wasn't pregnant at the time. Do this woman and her unborn child a favour and leave them well alone. Neither she nor her child EVER deserve to be physically abused.
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reader, khot +, writes (1 May 2013):
 Wow when I 1st read ths I was like wow what a man very few r like yu I'm pregnant and baby daddy gone so I'm alone and I thot we still do have me left but u put your hands on a pregnant woman, its ok for her to walk, u cannot expect to return now perhaps later when the bby is delivered coz now she might be fearing for the bby beating her might harm the child u might lose it again n beat her while she is still preg
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 Then, I am afraid you blew it. Many women draw the line at physical abuse . No apologies are sufficient, no second chances offered. It's a deal breaker.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 There are some things that there's no going back from. Physical abuse is one of them. I told my daughters that that should be a firm rule they tell every guy they're involved with -- hit me once and it's over forever. You're obligated to provide financial support, but she's not obligated to have a relationship with you.
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reader, kako +, writes (1 May 2013):
kako is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe fought then I end-up abusing her physically...I apologised its bin 3 weeks now even my parents called her but I think hormones are killing her
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2013): You can apologize by offering financial support of your child.
You can't force her to forgive you. She may be able to in time. She can't right now.
I suspect that you urged her to have unprotected sex. I also suspect that you did something awful and she is very upset about it. She has to face her family with a teenage pregnancy. She is stripped of her future hopes and dreams. Her parents may be disappointed in her.
As for a second chance. She has dumped you! You should allow her space to process all that she is going through, without any further pressure from you. You blew it the first time.
You have asked for advice. Here it is. I hope you'll take it.
LEAVE HER ALONE!
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (1 May 2013):
What do you apologize for ? Why do you need a second chance ?
Did you cheat on her ?
Not to butt into your business, but knowing what's the offence ( if there's any ) and its seriousness may help people to reply more helpfully.
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