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writes: G'day Several months ago my then girlfriend told me her younger brother was dying from recently diagnosed terminal brain cancer. Over the next four weeks i was unable to see her as he was being treated, but spoke to her and her family weekly on the phone.Then one week i heard nothing and feared the worst, another week passed and i was very concerned. All my calls and messages went unanswered. When i finally got in contact with her, she gave me a long list of rather weak excuses for dumping me, (such as her two best friends where single again and she felt left out)and promptly dropped me.A few weeks later the truth dawned on me, as I am sure it has with you, that her brother never had cancer and the whole thing she and her family had fed me was a lie.Looking back now on the story they told me, anyone I tell always sees the holes and the fact it was all made up. So I feel very angry at myself for not seeing it sooner. The rejection at being lied to like that is very strong, as is the anger I feel towards her father (who I believe was one of the ideas behind it)who on several occasions told me how his only son was "not doing too well" I do not understand why they did what they did and dealing with the lies I was told is very hard. It's a feeling of utter-rejection and anger. Its obvious she wanted to end it, but to do it like this is rather sick.What advice would you offer for this?Kind thanksAndyPerth, Western Australia
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (22 September 2005):
 Sick sick sick, spit spit spit!! To hoax up a lie like this just to let you know that she cant be with you anymore is absolutely absurd and unbelievable. But I guess there're all sorts of people around. You know what mate? You just thank ure lucky stars u aint got anything to do with her and her psycho family ever again!! You really dont know how lucky you are!! I'd advice you to not even speak to this girl. Yea sure, be friendly and all (so that she doesnt go all psycho on you again), smile when you see her, but for pete's sake, dont go speaking to her UNLESS and only UNLESS you really really really have to!!! In other words, cut all ties man!!
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reader, LEXI8580 +, writes (21 September 2005):
Please dont waste your time feeling upset about this, infact feel sorry for her and her family for having nothing better to do then make up such a sick lie. Be thankful your out of the situation because you deserve better! Dont give her the time of day and put this bad situation behind you. Give it time there are a lot of nice normal girls out there to choose from. Goodluck
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (21 September 2005):
 It sounds to me like this lot are sick and are not worth another second of your time. Forget about her and her strange family and move on, get yourself and decent girlfriend who's honest and caring and who will treat you with respect. Good luck :)
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reader, Happygoddess +, writes (20 September 2005):
Hi Andy :) Don't try to rationalize this type of a lie. It goes beyond rationalization, into a really dark place I don't think you need to go. Instead, realize that everything a person does shows us who they really are. Be grateful this one and her family showed you their true colors before you got in over your head.
I would say to confront her but I believe that will only add to your heartache and cause an emotional showdown with the bunch of you! Get out, be thankful, and move on with your life starting today!! And if she calls or comes around make yourself "unavailable".... Good luck!
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