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writes: My bf and I have been going out for 6 years. He and I have gone through a lot. He is always by my side when I am in trouble. And I stood by his side when his company is in bad shape.. I started cheating on my bf 2 years ago. I met someone online and started having affair with him behind my bf's back. At first I just want to have someone to hang around with coz my bf is very busy all the time. Then things got out of hand and I started having affair relationship with this guy. I like him a lot, but I am not sure if he likes me or whether he wants me for sex only. (2 years seems long time, but we meet maybe once every few months since I got really busy with work and study).I really don't know what to do. I have feeling for both...I know this looks really bad... I need some advice on how to handle the situation. Which one should I pick? Should I tell my bf?
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reader, mjmoonwalker89 +, writes (24 July 2006):
 how can you say that you love these guys when you're ready and willing to cheat on them. i dont know whether i just have strong morals on this sort of thing - but i have NO idea how you can justify it. i agree with someone else further down the page - its the attention you love
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2006): Your relationship with your boyfriend is well and truely over, you just can't see that.
It is VERY worrying that you don't have any remorse for what you have done to your boyfriend.
I think you should finally do the right thing and let your boyfriend find someone else - someone who can treat him better than you can. He deserves it, doesn't he?
If you need to have sex to feel wanted, I suggest you stay single for enough time to sort out your inferiority and insecurity problems. I am guessing you've never truely been able to be single, not having casual sex, yet happy, have you?
Once you can honestly say you are happy with yourself, then is the time to start dating. If you continue as you are doing now, you are doing little more than using these men for your own selfish emotional needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2006): You are the worst type, your poor boyfriend how can we tell you which one to pick. I hope your boyfriend finds someone else and moves on without finding out about your cheating. You are a very shallow person and you've been used for 2 years....wake up.
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reader, chazx  +, writes (23 July 2006):
 hello i think that you should be straight with your boyfriend tell him that you were feeling lonely and you wanted a friend but it got out of hand then you need to decide wether you want your boyfriend or the other guy.
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reader, Tine +, writes (23 July 2006):
 you need to come clean before someone else tells him. You cant blame your boyfriend on you cheating, its your fault and nobody elses. You should have said to your boyfriend that you were feeling neglected right from the start so that he could make a bit more time with you and then you wouldnt have to start cheating. But now you've got yourself stuck in a rut, you need to come clean to your boyfriend you have to show him a bit of respect and if he loves you enough to still go out wif you then dump this other boy, a fling has to stay a fling. and you cant love 2 people equally, its the attention you love.
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