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writes: I am very confused by the behaviour of one of my teachers towards me. He is a very strict teacher who never smiles and always seems annoyed and a lot of people find him scary.The problem is he behaves completely differently towards me. His face lights up when he sees me, he always smiles at me and I get away with a lot of things. The other day I walked past him on the running track smoking and he said nothing (and I've seen him give other people detentions for that).... He also winks at me when it's just me and him or when the other person present isn't looking, he stares at my chest sometimes. To be honest it's starting to freak me out. Do you think he could be attracted to me?
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (31 July 2006):
 Tell a good friend about it or you could get in trouble, please tell your parents as the will try to help you, never stay alone with him for a revision or whatever, try not to dress too sexy for class as maybe he is a chauvinist that think women who wear sexy are sluts, its not youf fault but take care please talk to the guidance department tutor or psychologist if you feel scared
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reader, finchy  +, writes (26 July 2006):
 I believe there is something not right here. you should tell your parents about this. and also tell a member off staff like your guidance teacher. He shouldnt be staring at you and treating you differantly. tell someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2006): If he is married and there is no chanch of getting marry with him. Them simply deny him through your body language or voice language or simply dont see him only for some days hope he will derive automatically from you. Its upto you. And if you also have some weak poit means if your soul is also like litte bit matching with him. Then mail me [email address blocked]. I will help you personally.
Regards, Jantra
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (24 July 2006):
 I think there's enough here to be concerned about.
For all that it's illegal, immoral and completely forbidden, some teachers *are* attracted to some students and there's real danger there.
If you're starting to get freaked, I really encourage you to talk to a school counsellor and spell out your concerns about this teacher. Start to keep a diary of what he did, and when. Record the date, time and place, and exactly the words that he used. If there were any other people who saw or heard it, write their names down.
If there are more than a couple of these incidents in a week, then he's showing you a bias that's unfair to other students. Furthermore, if he's staring at your breasts and making you uncomfortable, he needs to be spoken to by his superiors. He's just an employee of the school, after all! You should be able to go about your business at school without feeling like he's watching you.
Let the school counseller have a copy of your diary (keep a copy, in case it gets 'lost'), and tell him or her that you feel freaked out by the attention and tell the counsellor what you want to have happen. Maybe you just want to be left alone, maybe you want to be transferred out of his classes... whatever.
If you can't face doing it in person, then you can send a copy by registered mail to the Head or the Principal, with a letter explaining why you're pointing this problem out.
Don't be afraid to act. If he's making you uncomfortable, then you're in the right. Just be sure that what he's doing is not accidental or a misunderstanding -- brushing against your arm while he helps you at your desk, for example -- because these are very serious allegations, and he could end up under the microscope, possibly affecting his job if the allegations are proved.
If you think there's a chance that he's just vague or unaware, that's whole different situation, and those are things you just steer clear of, and wait for the end of the term.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (23 July 2006):
 I think it's possible that he does feel attraction to you. If your really worried about it or your fighten that he might at on it you should ask to be moved to another class. You teacher should be making you feel uncomfortable..
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you could be amazely paranoid....
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reader, chazx +, writes (23 July 2006):
 it could very well be that your teacher is attracted to you if you are so worried then maybe you should report it because that could be peadaphilia ok do somethng about it if you are sure
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reader, kat14 +, writes (23 July 2006):
 possibly my old drama teacher was a pervert and recently got charged with having under age sex with two pupils.he too was quite stern but u would see him growl n wink at certain students.Just be careful try not 2 worry about it. if things get worse ask him why he is so nice 2 u n hasnt given u a detention.
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