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SOS: In a relationship but in love with teen girls!

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Question - (9 March 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 11 June 2014)
A male United States age 36-40, *he Corporate Casanova writes:

Greetings to all on DearCupid:

I'm 21, from Miami (Florida, not Ohio), and I have an internal issue involving whether I should stay in love with my 19-year-old long-distance girlfriend I've met on a social gaming site about a month ago, or fall in love with a 16-year-old high school girl.

Look, I know some might classify this thought as "jailbait", but I'm no perv nor pedo-moron. Seriously. Don't judge me; that's my job against crooks.

Anyways, to help shed some light on this situation, according to Florida code, Title XLVI, Chapter 794:

A person 24 years of age or older who engages in sexual activity with a person 16 or 17 years of age commits a felony of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082, s. 775.083, or s. 775.084. As used in this section, "sexual activity" means oral, anal, or vaginal penetration by, or union with, the sexual organ of another; however, sexual activity does not include an act done for a bona fide medical purpose.

Ergo, according to Wikipedia:

The age of consent in Florida is 18, but close in age exemptions exist. By law, the exception permits a person 23 years of age or younger to engage in legal sexual activity with a minor aged 16 or 17.

So it's a possibility that, believe it or not, there are somewhat stringent restrictions to dating teen girls in this state. I know my mother disapproves of me dating them, but I can't help it if feel more comfortable hanging around with them, because they're cute, beautiful, and fun to hang around with.

To help clarify this question (just in case no one got the memo on what I'm trying to get at here), should I keep the New England cutie, or should I leave her for someone younger (and cuter) in senior high?

I would most appreciate it if you'd help me out here; you be the judge.

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A male reader, The Corporate Casanova United States +, writes (11 June 2014):

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The Corporate Casanova agony auntHello everyone; sorry I was away for so long.

I must say that it's been a few years since I last sought advice here. But now, I'm here to tell you what has transpired during my absence:

The long-distance girlfriend became my ex after she was violated by her mother's boyfriend, then she became depressed beyond belief. I offered her comfort and reassurance. I had to admit that my contributions worked out quite well; she recovered from her trauma and found another guy. A minor loss in my love life, but at least she's happy.

Now as for me, I'm 25 (about to be 26 in a few months) I work at a part-time job, and I am struggling to better myself to the best of my ability. Facing a quarter-life crisis, I begin wondering what I would have done differently if I could turn back time...

Nonetheless, despite the fact that I am still single, living with my family, and have yet to contemplate personal transportation, there is always a huge world out there, waiting to be discovered.

And in regards to having amorous relationships with teen girls, let's just say that I'll settle for dating until the girl I date is ready for matrimony. Because merely getting in her pants is SO obviously out of the question.

I thank you for the time to hear me out. And now, I'm off to seek effective solutions to my problems here.

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A male reader, uncutdan United States +, writes (9 March 2010):

uncutdan agony auntWow, if you had to do that much research to see if it was legal, you know its wrong. You're trying to justify being with a 16 year old girl. And you even cited Wikipedia, clearly the worlds foremost authority on statutory rape.

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A female reader, el Lori United States +, writes (9 March 2010):

el Lori agony auntYou are swiming out in murky waters. As Accountable said you asking if its okay to engage in sexual intercourse with a teenage girl. If you really like this girl and if she is worth the wait then wait until she is 18. This could get messy especially if her parents are not accepting of the relationship. Also, your girlfriend deserves to know what is going on. Its not fair to keep her in a relationship because its convient for you. Best of luck

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A female reader, Accountable United Kingdom +, writes (9 March 2010):

Accountable agony auntI dont think you can "choose" to stay in love or fall out of/in love, so I dont think you're asking about love at all, you're just asking who you should have sex/be with.

In which case, you should drop your longdistance girlfriend (as she deserves somebody who wants and loves HER, not the prospect of 16 year olds) and go after the younger girls.

I'd warn you against so obviously going after sex; I was 16 when I met my boyfriend, who was then 20, and it was very important to me that he didn't push me into anything I wasnt ready for. If you go after younger girls, please at least be respectful of their wishes, and dont force them into things they arent comfortable with - let them set the pace of anything sexual.

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