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writes:hi i am 34 years old married woman and my husband is 36 years old working in multinational. we both like sex too much and we do sex daily morning and night 2-3 times. now we are thinking to have sex with other married couple and both are agree. he has already search one couple and that couple is also ready. but i am very surprised that actally the other couple is my younger sister and her husband. so i refused but my husband is trying to convince and my sister is also having no objection. we both sisters are very smart and physically fit women and as i think that this is the preplanned of our husband to have sex with us. so i would like to get suggestion from you that i shoul be agree for sex withmy sister's husband and vice versa.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 cars maybe, sex partners no
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reader, boydjohn026  +, writes (17 August 2010):
My wife and I have been swapping with her sister and husband for five years now. We all enjoy it. I see nothing wrong with it as long as you trust your partner.
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reader, holivia  +, writes (19 March 2010):
That is totally not right! Yu should not be having sex with your younger sister and her husband! You have a family, jobs etc you should not be being led astray SEX! i mean surely there is more important things than sex! It's not right, i totally object to the idea. Of coyrse you may hav sex whenever you want.. but not with your younger sister and her husband. It's wrong. Sorry if this has nt been any help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): HORRIBLE idea... my sister-in-law (younger) is really cute, funny and sexy, however, she's about the LAST person I would invite into our bed... that's TOO CLOSE for any comfort.
If you're going to play, find someone you can play with and never see again if something happens. Someone whe doesn't know you, and you will not run into... if it works for a year, great! If not- no harm...
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (27 July 2009):
Don't do this... not with family, or even freinds that you know outside of swinging. Swapping can be great fun, under the right senario, but this is the #1 DO NOT DO... don't swing with family, co-workers, freinds... make new freinds to swing with - and keep those freindships focused on sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): i smell a rat here.....that of your younger sister and your husband. i know in india a lot of men prefer the younger sister to their wives (maybe i am generalising too much). too much of a co incidence here...what do you think? try snifing around and see wther there are any evidence that your sis and your hb is not doing it already. plse plse be careful, i think your hb is setting you up. plse be wise and think clearly. there are signs that he presers your sis already and that he just wants an excuse to fuck her "openly" with your consent. then when he leaves you for her he will blame you. something is not right here. your hb doesn't care a hoot who you sleep with, just as long as he get with your sister.plse send us an update. i am most curious how this would pan out. i can see a lot of hands going up betting that your hb is getting it on with your sis. plse do not trust her. this is wrong for me to say but plse listen. the mere co incidence that your hb found your younger sis and her hb as willing to swop is just too creepy. you may enjoy sex too much now, but when your home is broken then what. if you still want another couple plse do not choose your sis and her hb. can you start picturing your hb and your sis having sex. i am hoping it will make you sick....sick enough to say NO to your hb. plse do not allow him to force you to agree.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): If your husband is suggesting it and your sister isn't objecting to it - there is an underlying problem with that alone.
Him being attracted to other women is normal but to verbalize to you that he wants to sleep with your sister is just gross and disrespectful.
I wouldn't be surprised if there's something else to it.
Do you really want your sister to know how your husband makes love? That's so special and intimate between you and your him. I'd never give that up to anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): No , he might start having stronger feelings for your sister
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reader, bort +, writes (9 June 2009):
I know some people engage in this sort of open relationship, althought I don't quite get it. I also have heard that problems often arise. In your situation, the problems might affect not only your marriage, but also your family relationships.
I suggest that if you feel you want an open relationship, that you look somewhere else.
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reader, holikdad +, writes (9 June 2009):
Ooh, yuck. Have you ever heard of the saying that when you have sex with someone you've had sex with everyone they've had sex with? That means that technically you'll be sleeping with your sister. Not a good idea.If you and your husband want to swing get on the internet, there are plenty of sites devoted to people who want to get in the lifestyle that are safe and allow you to meet online. Then if you think you'd be interested in that couple you can go out and meet them for dinner or coffee just to see if everyone "clicks".But I warn you, this lifestyle is not for everyone. It will only work if you both have the type of emotional stability and open attitude that will allow you to know that your husband is sleeping with another woman while you're not around and be fine with it. It also may end up with you watching him have sex with another woman. So if you're not into that or think that you'll have a problem with that then DON'T do it.Go down to a good private sex store and pick up all the toys you can continue to be with each other only.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (9 June 2009):
 disaster waiting to happen. this is NOT a good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): dont do it.It is too dangerous and complicated.It can ruin your life let alone your marriage, if you can't come to terms with it afterwards.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 You are right that your husband and brother in law have planned this. If you both want an open relationship I think that is fine as long as you both agree and are happy BUT what your huband is proposing will probably ruin your marriage. Most open marriages(swingers) meet with and have sex with strangers so there are no ties and no complications so the experience is for the joy of sex with someone else. The rule is never to have sex with a friend, relative or any other couple for too long. Where he is taking you is very deep water and you may have trouble swimming back.
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reader, greg290352 +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Things could work out very well for you all I think. A lot depends on how close you are to your younger sister? Could you deal with her having sex with your husband? Also how would you feel about having sex with your sister? That is almost certain to happen at some point. Good luck whatever you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): It sounds to me like your husband and your sister are trying to legitimise bonking each other, and they're throwing up a smokescreen hoping that you and her husband will find each other attractive enough to want to have sex.
It all sounds very pre-planned to me, and I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if they're not already at it.
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reader, whoha +, writes (9 June 2009):
go with your gut instinct If it dont feel right dont do it.
Find something you are both comfortable with.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (9 June 2009):
 If your going to do this stay away from family, sisters etc if something goes wrong then your lose them for some sexual fun its not worth it, find a couple with less connections to you both, then if you dont enjoy it or it turns out bad you can just walk away and move on, if its a sister then your always have that in the back of your mind!
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