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writes: I found some old letters in my stack of books and in them was one from "Jake". We dated 8 years ago when I was 18 for about 3-4 months. He was amazing to me, maybe the nicest bfriend I ever had. We were never intimate with one another, although close. I had been hurt very badly by my last boyfriend's best friend right after we broke up, which I didn't press charges on. Now I never told him about that, but in effect that is why we broke up. I never found a time to tell him, but then I met someone else who support and conversation flowed with. In the letter I found it said he would love me and support me no matter what and he wanted to know what he did wrong for me to have stopped talking to him. I want to write him a letter and say that I am writing him, not to even try and be friends, but just to apologize for the poor way I handled our breakup and hope that he someday has a family as loving as mine. I married the other guy and now we have 2 beautiful children. I have enormous guilt after finding the letter as I never gave him another thought since I had so much else going on. Note he is not with anyone now, and I only want to communicate to say I am sorry. Better late than never?
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reader, lildeesbg  +, writes (9 September 2005):
 I say go for it, it is closure for you. I tell all my friends the same thing, be open and honest so you have no regrets. I think that as long as you state that your happily married and that this letter is closure for yourself and something that he deserves then the letter is a great idea.
Especially, if he was your first love. Nobody ever forgets their first love. Thankfully, you had a good first love and you should close that chapter of your life with no regrets.
Good Luck =)
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reader, Delila +, writes (9 September 2005):
Really simple this one, write to him, tell him what happened and whatever else you want to tell him. Then post it to him and do not put a return address on the letter. You could send it by registered post to be sure that he recieves it. That way you will feel better that he knows what went wrong all those years ago, it probably would make him happy. Then you will not be afraid that he might appear out of the woodwork again and stir up emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2005): I agree with Captain Charisma on this one. Just leave him alone and allow him to live his life. Like it was said, he's likely gone on with his life and has totally forgotten about it all.
I have heard of married, discontent women doing this and I have to ask "why"? What's the real underlying issues here and why the sudden interest in what he's doing? You are married with kids-I hope you are content and happy and realize that contact with him may stir up some old feelings. Why take that chance. Just leave him be.
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reader, pops +, writes (9 September 2005):
By all means, write him. It is better late than never. But don't expect him to remember you, much less the circumstances surrounding the ending of your relationshipl. He may, but don't expect it. Are you sure you know his current address? I am sure he will be pleased to know you are happily married with 2 beautiful children.
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reader, Captain_Charisma2202 +, writes (8 September 2005):
Well I mean If I was you i wouldnt get in touch again. this guy may have a new life and is most proberly over you and you could just drag up painful memories for both of you. b ut if you really feel you should get in touch with him start of by becoming friends and try not to bring up the break up untill your close again or he asks about it...hope this helps and good luck
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