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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok so I'm AT a point in my life were I'm having a hard time coping with things happining around me.. ill be 24 years old in July, married for over a year now. Since I got married I moved away from my family and friends. I have a great job with realy nice co-workers but the area is deserted compared to where I was living, like a mini nyc but more suburbs. I'm not the type of person to ignoor my friends when I have a man unlike some women..but nobody contacts me anymore and when I contact them there always buisy and Dnt bother inviting me!Not only that but I no nobody here, I moved into my husbands house and surounded by his family and his memories, I still Dnt like the fact that I moved into a house he already made memories in and with other women of course. Anywhos, my very best friend has het own life n diff friends.so were not always together..and my other best friend is now in rehab, I had no idea, she acted as if she's fine, then someone who I once considered my best friend but IS kinda ify, I caught her hanging out with my ex best friend.who. can't be my friend cause her husband doesint like me, mind u I introduce them! N now there hanging out behind my back, and I can't even tell her that's wrong because who am I to tell someone who they can't and can be friends with..then another ex best friend called me up to help her new friend cuz her car was towed, mind u I havint spoken to her in months, I Dnt get where that's headed, I mean why call me ur ex to help ur new friend lol I did cuz I'm nice like that, but w.e.I no this may sound confusing but to break it down I can't seem to keep friendships...n I TRY So hard to be in the friendship and I give my all and I only get back less then half. It's hurtful for.sure and I feel lonely. I no I have.my hubby but a girl needs her best friends. N I have a narsasistic sister in law who recently came n apologized to me ( after a few drinks of course).she said she wanted to ne close n every time I ask to hang out she says she's buisy n was invited to do somthing with someone else who are visiting.mean while on instagram she's at the beach with a group of ppl I sometimes chill with to, its like.umm u couldint invite me. Mind u she passes my house to get to the shore! thats, somthing so simple and public, so now I guessing she's still being her fake self and nothing she said that one night is true.. mind u I havint spoken to my brother in months. He's older and he never calls me or texts or anything, I guess he thinks if I text his wife I'm talking to him ..so I basicly Dnt have a brother either!So I'm realy stressed ... I keep thinking its me who's wrong because I can't possibly have this much bad relationships in my life to just blame on others, so I keep trying to fight myself.about it.and see what's wrong with me...and all I can come.up with is that, I'm to nice, I.let.people walk all over me, I can't talk back to someone.for.my life! I'm a pussy I guess. N I just feel like exploding to everyone around me but I cnt. N all this is happing at once and acumulating over time...I go to a therapists just to talk cu I have.no.one to talk to and mind u being a wife isint easy either, I.mean food has to be cooked house has to be clean and I Dnt make nearly the money my hubby makes and he hates that, so I feel the pressure, n to top that I'm a total.shopoholic, ill even .personally shop for others to!I realy just needed to vent and no if anyone's been in a simailer situation. And how u delt with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2012): Hi There, i know its hard for you at the moment but try not to try so hard and let people come to you... or arrange a girlie night that way you can get your friends around - everyone has busy lives so try not to be too hard on your friends and maybe sit back and think if its something you maybe doing that makes people avoid... (weve all done it) and reading back your story , try not to get too overaught with household chors its not the end of the world if they dont get done... x
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