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writes:When I was in the 6th grade, a school right next to mine was closed down, and some of the students there came to our school. One of these students was Lisa (fake-name).A friend of mine had a crush on Lisa's friend, so a group evolved. We saw each other in school every day, we talked often and we were all good friends. After a while, I really began to like Lisa (for the first time), but I kept my lips sealed.Nearing the end of 6th grade and elementary school (1st-6th grade in Israel is Elementary, 7th-9th Middle/Junior High, and 10th-12th is High school), I started walking her to her house (when I lived in the other direction), and used excuses like "I have something to do" or "A family member lives there" (you know... lame excuses). One of these times, I told her that I liked her. As I pretty much said it when she started climbing the stairs, she didn't respond immediately. But she heard.The next day, she told her friends she was tired of our "group", and left. I was, of course, wounded, but after a few days they returned and all went back to normal.Some years passed, in which I liked her in 99% of the time (but didn't make a move), I lately feel closer to her, and I also had a few dreams in which we kiss. I continue to see her everyday at school, and I act normally, but I am rather afraid to make a move.Lisa told me before she read "Twilight", and that she liked the scene where Edward kisses Belle in a meadow (or something like that). I know there is some place similar very close to my house, and I thought that perhaps I can... recreate the scene.What do you people think? Should I do it? I have to say, I'm very apprehensive about it. I'm not sure what to say afterwards, or what will happen afterwards, or how she will react... You know what I mean? If she won't like it, what next? How do I get out of it and how badly she will think of me...Any opinion will be happily accepted. Thank you all in advance.
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Aw thats sweet, I agree with the others tho, ask her out on a date first, then maybe later go to the meddow.
But, I wouldnt tell her your recreating the scene, I think that would scare me a bit, let her figure that one out and make the connection herself.
If I was kissing a guy in a meddow i would probs think of Twilight, but of course id never say that to him!
Good luck :) xx
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 It doesn't really matter how romantic the setting is, if she doesn't like the boy, it won't be romantic to the girl. When I was about your age, I had a boy try to do a romantic kiss thing too, and I was sooooo turned off by it. I wasn't interested in him, it wasn't his fault, I just thought of him as a friend and nothing more, there was honestly nothing he could do to change my mind that way. So the kiss thing really backfired because then I avoided him like the plague after that. I did NOT want to be alone with him for fear he would try something again. He was a perfectly nice guy; he just wasn't my type. I really hope he found a wonderful woman who would appreciate his romantic gestures.
First, ask her out on a date. If she won't go out on a date with you, she won't want you to kiss her. And fighting off a romantic kiss is a lot more alienating than being asked out on a date. Seriously, one you can say a verbal "no" to, the other you physically have to fend off the other person, and that is much more stressful to the girl.
Sorry you're having to learn one of life's worst lessons: sometimes the person you really fancy doesn't fancy you back. You will get past this eventually, but it hurts when it's fresh and new. Good luck.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 December 2009):
 I agree with CaringGuy. Ask her out on a date, and then END it by kissing her in the meadow! That way, you can feel out how the date goes and get vibes as to whether or not she'll want to be kissed. But, it's a very romantic idea, and she'd be lucky to have such a thoughtful fella.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): First, thank you CaringGuy for the response.
Regarding it, I thought about it before. Being asked to a date by a friend, especially when you both have common friends, is very alienating, especially if you like the asker back. That's why I didn't do that before (we had those small "dates", but not a "serious" one).
I know that if she doesn't like me back, I'm in a mess... that's why I have this dilemma.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 December 2009):
Though that would be very romantic, if she doesn't fancy you, you're going to be right in a mess. If you fancy her, you'd be much better off just asking her out an a date. If you try to kiss or or something like that, she might react very badly, and you'll be hurt. Ask her out on a date, it's much safer.
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reader, DiamondGirlx +, writes (6 December 2009):
 I think what you have decided to do is very sweet and lovely however it also sounds cheesy, and this girl blaintanly doesnt want to further your friendship so it could be a waste of time :S
Ask her out 1st, then if she agrees to go on a date with you then create the scene okay
best of luck xxx
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