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writes:please take the tme to help. Well my ex boyfriend posted this about me : 5 Months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend with whom I'd had sex with and with whom I'd been with for a year and a half. She was too jealous and too clingy, and as a result of this, she split up my whole group of friends, as they felt they couldn't get near me without evoking her wrath. She did not take the news of our break up well, and cried for 3 weeks after it. From what I have heard, she still occasionally sheds a tear about it. About a month after the break up, I learned that while we were going out, she cheated on me once(Just a Kiss, and with a Turkish man on holiday), which explained the jealousy thing, as those who cheat are more likely to accuse their partners of cheating. I have spoken to her abotu this and she confirms this.So anyway, she has came round to my house a couple of times since the break up, and there is always an air of sexual tension. So much so that we end up having intercoursal relations every time. And I enjoy it, and I miss it.I believe her to be my first love, and I have heard that I will never get over her if this is the case. I am also her first love, and she admits herself that she would happily get back with me.For a while, I thought I could live a very happy life without her, but I now realize that I want her back desperately. Not just for the sex, but for the companionship.There are however, two things standing in my way. The first is her current boyfriend. She is constantly trying to fill the hole I left in her with other men, and this current guy is completely in love with her. He is also an extremely nice guy whom I have no intention of hurting. She has told me that she'd rather be with me than him, but doesn't want to hurt his feelings.The second obstacle is my friends. I fear that by going out with her again, they would feel a tad betrayed. They have eased of the name calling that used to be directed at her, and now appear to be neutral, although there is a certain air of hostility about them all. I don't believe that by rekindling the fire of our relationship that I would lose my friends. I'm just scared of what they might think of me.and i feel this isnt a fair judgement of me. As we know people dont know the other person, but here you do.I am currently with a guy who is so lovely and i dont want to hurt him and my ex doesnt want me to leave him for my ex. As he doesnt want to feel the guilt.I am just so confused on what to do. And yes i have cheated once before, and i felt/still feel so bad about it, as it was a stupid childish mistake and i regret it constantly.i would just like some advice..
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 December 2009):
Well, I think first of all, you need to end things with your boyfriend if you don't love him enough. It's unfair to be with him if you're only with him because you don't want to hurt him. So really look at whether you want to be with your boyfriend or not, because if you don't, he needs to be able to move on.
As for your ex, maybe he's your ex for a reason. Can you honestly commit to him this time? Or will you cheat again? Maybe you need to spend some time on yourself just focusing on what you want out of life, and then find the right guy.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 eh, aged between 13 and 15 are you? Very advanced language skill for a person of your age, were you raised by your dear old granny, some of the words you use are a tad outdated!
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