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Should I really have a baby with this kind of man?

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Question - (22 April 2010) 10 Answers - (Newest, 23 April 2010)
A female Namibia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

am having a problem with my boyfriend,we are for ever arguing even if its a small mistake that comes up. he just got rude with me since he found out that i cheated on him. sometimes he even just want to beat me while he also cheats with other ladies. i dnt know what to do to keep peace. when we argue,if i answer him bad then he beats me. i love him and he loves me as well because he wants to have a baby with but he is cheating too much. must i really have a baby with this kind of a guy?

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (23 April 2010):

raiders agony auntIf you loved him ask yourself this questions why did you cheat? If he loves you why does he cheat? Love does not hit,mistreats,humiliate,yell,scare,etc..... Really think before its too late,get out of this relationship there are shelters where you can go, there are laws that will protect you. You need to realize that this treatment is not okay. Get out and get help.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (23 April 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt So you love him ,ok. And do you love yourself ? At least a little bit ? Or do you think that as a partner you don't deserve anything better than a man who cheats on you and beats you all the time ?...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010):

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but i dnt think living him will be easy for me because i love him very much.

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A female reader, Denise32 United States +, writes (22 April 2010):

Denise32 agony auntNO! Absolutely not. No way should you bring a poor baby into this mess.

He cheated on you; you cheated on him. He beats you. Both of you are behaving badly - you should not have cheated, he should not have cheated either, but it by no means excuses him for beating you. His behavior is worse than yours, because of his cruelty.

You ask how to avoid all the arguments. Simple: Cut off all contact with him now and for ever. If he comes to your home, don't answer the door. Do not call him, and if he phones you, you tell him not to do so ever again, because its over. End of conversation, no if's and's or but's. Get police protection or get advice from a women's counseling center if you need to.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (22 April 2010):

chigirl agony auntYou avoid the arguments by avoiding this man. There is too much wrongdoings here, you cheated on him and he cheats on you. In addition you fight and he beats you. You should both leave each other and find someone new to treat better. The fights will never stop because you both hurt each other too much and he still cheats and hits.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010):

You BOTH should NOT be cheating!!!! Any type of cheating is WRONG even if its both ways. He has reason to get rude with you wheen you cheated on him, but he should NOT be cheating on you or hitting you either. Break up, then seek therapy. Its the only way to straighten out your life. None of it is okay.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (22 April 2010):

raiders agony auntNo!!!!! I don't think you guys are ready to be in a relationship and definitely not ready to bring an innocent child to suffer in this world. Now really you want to have a baby what are you going offer, cheating parents, an abuse mother, and abuser for a father. First I think you need to get out of this relationship, and get counseling cause I get the vibe that you feel this attitude and treatment is okay.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010):

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guys,advise me about the arguements that we are always having? how do i avoid it?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (22 April 2010):

Absolutely not. No.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (22 April 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt Come on, you know the answer already. It's NO.

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