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*amato2
writes:I found out my husband of 9 years (together for 16) was having a 4 year affair with his office manager on Christmas of last year. We decided to try to repair our marriage for the sake of our two children ages 6 and 4. I was willing to forgive his mistake if he was truly remorseful and committed to making our marriage work. He has still not stopped all contact with her, in fact she is still in the office. After 4 months of me trying and him being very distant I decided to check his email and found out that he was still continuing his affair. I've since kicked him out and we have separated. He thinks time apart will do us some good-me to cool down and him to appreciate me and the kids. He said he didn't restart the affair and that it was only a french kiss. ??!!My question is this: Should I move away (2 hours north) to be with my family and friends or stay here so that the kids can see their dad and be close to him? I really do want to do what's best for the kids but I also want to be happy. I have until the end of the school year to decide. Please advise. Thank you.
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reader, mamato2 +, writes (22 April 2010):
mamato2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies. He is a loving and caring father. He does not do much with them but maybe this separation will provide him some real quality time with them. I think you are both right in that the kid's wellbeing comes first. I can find happiness with or without him here. Thanks again.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 April 2010):
If he's a good father, and his kids get on well with him, don't move because it will ruin your kids. I know you want to be happy, but it's worth staying for your kids and rebuilding your life here. Don't take your kids away from their school and friends and father, because you will have two very unhappy kids.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Your children's wellbeing comes first. If your spouse is a rotten husband but a good,loving dad, you should stay where you are and restart your life from there.
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