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writes:I met this guy online three years ago we talked ever since but he lived in london which is otherside of england to me. we never met up and havent talked for about 6 months. Today i got a text from him, he is in Leeds for a year and wants to meet up in the place i live. I said yes, but after thinking about it, im unsure. Will it be okay he is 3 years older n im 16. I am unsure if he will try anything.I told him I am not up for anything like that the first time we meet n he said he doesnt expect it. However what if he is lying and is very different in real life.I believe that is okay, yet its kinda scary meeting someone after talking for 3 years then not for 6 months n suddenly meetin up.What do you think? Should I go?
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 As the others have said... if you really want to meet up with him, then meet him in a public place but if you feel in any way troubled or uncomfortable with him, order a cab and go home.
I would talk to him on the phone first to see if you feel comfortable with him on the phone. If he says no to the phone call, you know straight off that he's got something to hide.
I would not however go with the advice on here that says bring condoms... I wouldn't even COMTEMPLATE sleeping with him. You don't know him at all. Ensure that this meeting is just a few hours of spending time to get to know one another and I hardly think that if he attempts to have sex with you of which you don't conset that your offer of condoms will be taken!
If you feel the slightest bit comfortable. Just leave.
Tell a friend where you're going, what you're doing, and when you'll be back and make sure you ring them to tell them that you're safe and to raise the alarm if you don't contact them.
Take care xx
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reader, gr  +, writes (12 September 2008):
I think that our intuition says as much to us overline as much as in person. although, they can hide things much
easier. don't let him call the shots about the meet.
Meet in a park, or at a dinner place where you both
arrivein seperatly cars. He may be some poor sap that
makes you miserable or you many have found something wondrful. Just be precusios and stay in a public area. don't give any of your person information.
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reader, Ladybug08 +, writes (12 September 2008):
Well, there are tons of internet preditors lerking around and you can never be too sure about peoples intentions these days. Afew years ago, I met a man online that lived five states away and I ended up relocating and living with him and we had a major blast. Although, we nolonger live together, we are still great friends. This is an extremely rare case though when dealing with strangers online. It could have turned out realllly bad and I'm am very lucky that it didn't. I was young and niave and went Alone to Texas to be with a man that I met online. Being 16 is a dangerous age, young lady and for that, I think that you should use extreme caution. If you can not be convinced to not meet this guy, then you need to meet him in a public place with friends and not take him to your home. Also it would be wise to avoid alcoholic drinks and just use common sense. I don't think that you should meet with him but If you want to then you are going to do it. I think that you have your mind made up and are really looking for validation or information on the smartest and less risky ways of meeting with him.
1. Dont get in a vehicle with him
2. Don't drink with him.
3. Go to a public place in the daytime.
4.take a friend
5.Tell someone where you will be at and what time to expect you home.
6. give his information to you parent(since your 16)
7.don't do anthing that you don't want to
8. If you don't like him, leave.
9. Protect your privacy.(your home address ect..)
good luck to you dear.
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reader, Ladybug08 +, writes (12 September 2008):
Well, there are tons of internet preditors lerking around and you can never be too sure about peoples intentions these days. Afew years ago, I met a man online that lived five states away and I ended up relocating and living with him and we had a major blast. Although, we nolonger live together, we are still great friends. This is an extremely rare case though when dealing with strangers online. It could have turned out realllly bad and I'm am very lucky that it didn't. I was young and niave and went Alone to Texas to be with a man that I met online. Being 16 is a dangerous age, young lady and for that, I think that you should use extreme caution. If you can not be convinced to not meet this guy, then you need to meet him in a public place with friends and not take him to your home. Also it would be wise to avoid alcoholic drinks and just use common sense. I don't think that you should meet with him but If you want to then you are going to do it. I think that you have your mind made up and are really looking for validation or information on the smartest and less risky ways of meeting with him. 1. Dont get in a vehicle with him2. Don't drink with him.3. Go to a public place in the daytime.4.take a friend5.Tell someone where you will be at and what time to expect you home.6. give his information to you parent(since your 16)7.don't do anthing that you don't want to8. If you don't like him, leave.9. Protect your privacy.(your home address ect..)good luck to you dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): Meet in a public place.
If you arent sure tell a friend you are going to meet up with him.
Take protection (condoms) just in case.
No 3 years is ok me and my man have 4 year age distance and been together 5 years.
Good choice! Very happy to hear that... As I met a guy on the net had sex first day we met up I felt used and broke it off with him. Good luck sis
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (12 September 2008):
 You definitely SHOULD NOT GO. Your instincts are giving you warning signs and you should listen to them.
But if you do change your mind and really want to meet him,
please protect yourself by telling a trusted adult about your whereabouts.
Also, why don't you bring a friend the first time you meet him. He could be 19 or 91. You have to be very very careful. There are a lot of crazy people out there. Your safety comes first.
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 I think yes, you should go. If you're scared, meet him in a public place like local or something. Don't be so suspicious, probably he's just curious who are you and what you look like. And if he had intentions to do something ugly to you, he wouldn't wait for 3 years.
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reader, ItsEmma +, writes (12 September 2008):
 No, no! Definatley not! You don't KNOW this guy! My friend had a 'friend' online, but she found out that all the pictures he was showing her was from someone else's Myspace. You can't really trust anything online.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): It does seem quite strange,
Have you talked to him on the phone?
Then at least you know what he sounds like.
Also if he was a wierdo i think he wouldn't be patient enough untill you were ready to meet.
Maybe the best thing to do is meet him in the centre of a busy place, coffee shop or something, not too close to where you live, and bring a friend or adult.
keep your phone handy and never go outside a public place.
Good luck!
And remember: Trust your instincts
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